How does One Love the Journey?

[adnanazmi]

Hello, fellow Fastlaners,

Lately, I've been thinking of the importance of loving the journey rather than focusing on the destination.

Do any of you have any insightful tips on how we can achieve this mindset? To help with waking up early, putting in relentless effort towards our businesses, prioritizing our health, engaging in regular workouts, and continuously striving for self-improvement. I would greatly appreciate any advice, quotes, tips, tricks, or hacks that you believe would be beneficial for a fellow Fastlaner like myself.

 

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[PC123]

Meditating and using MJ's GoalSumo.com.com planner daily helps create daily excellence.

 

[MJ DeMarco]

Act with an intention on your future.

See your future in 5 or 10 years, and act in accordance with that vision.

You can be at peace mopping floors when you know it is temporary and just a small step for the larger future you've designed.

When the dream dies, you die -- as does your willingness to do what needs to be done.

 

[jclean]

I think it has a lot to do with discipline. that you keep the promises you make to yourself and also gradually raise the bar, in a realistic way without comparing yourself to other people. there will always be someone richer, better, prettier than yourself.
Keep learning and
never give up never give in.

 

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[Oso]

I believe that's something people parrot to themselves in order to feel some type of comfort in this life. We're forced into this life, and then told to work for something we're told to value, in order to fuel a society/world we didn't help create. We're told what and who to value. We're told what is okay and what isn't. We're told what we should fear and what's (probably) safe. We're told what we should believe in and what we shouldn't. We're told to "value life and the human experience," but no one can tell you what the purpose of it is.

Finally decided against suicide in 2017, realized there's nothing to do except see how far I can go in this life, and the rest is history. There's a lot I know and even more that I don't. While I may not believe human life has a purpose, I do know that, regardless of where I come from, my destiny is in my hands.

While this more than likely isn't the type of "encouragement" you were seeking, I will leave you with a quote. A simple, yet powerful quote. A quote that, for whatever reason, lit a fire under my a$$ upon accepting I wasn't ready to die. Once I viewed it from a different perspective, I realized the escape to my misery had been in front of my face the entire time, and the answer was in this quote.

"You either get busy livin' or get busy dying."

Cheers.

 

[Black_Dragon43]

Who told you that you have to love the journey?

Nobody loves the journey, because nobody loves pain. You don’t love the pain of lifting those huge a$$ weights in the gym - F*ck, you hate that.

But you do it because you love the result more than you hate the pain.

So the answer you’re looking for is to change your mindset. You don’t need to love something to do it, you just need to be disciplined and do what it takes to take yourself closer to your goals.

 

[MJ DeMarco]

Who told you that you have to love the journey?

Nobody loves the journey, because nobody loves pain. You don’t love the pain of lifting those huge a$$ weights in the gym - F*ck, you hate that.

But you do it because you love the result more than you hate the pain.

So the answer you’re looking for is to change your mindset. You don’t need to love something to do it, you just need to be disciplined and do what it takes to take yourself closer to your goals.

A lot of your posts can cause friction around here and it's a shame because this post should be marked GOLD. If I wrote this, or someone else around here with less of an abrasive history, it would be liked into oblivion. Although once you start working out hard at the gym and get beyond a certain point, it can get pretty addictive.

I know you probably don't care, but thanks for sharing it.

 

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[PapaGang]

Who told you that you have to love the journey?

Nobody loves the journey, because nobody loves pain. You don’t love the pain of lifting those huge a$$ weights in the gym - F*ck, you hate that.

But you do it because you love the result more than you hate the pain.

So the answer you’re looking for is to change your mindset. You don’t need to love something to do it, you just need to be disciplined and do what it takes to take yourself closer to your goals.

I was in a hot mood yesterday and I shouldn't have touched my keyboard. So I've revised this to read less a-holish.

I can't do the tradeoff of doing something I don't like for years to reach some sort of promised land.

To the OP:
I like this strategy. Life is a funny and difficult puzzle for me, but I found that if I can be present and aware of where I am now, if I can fall in love with the work (not do what I love), if I can immerse myself in something that interests me, and if I can dedicate myself to just doing my best, I am happier.

If I can remain right here, right now, I'm happier. I sometimes forget that we all won the lottery, and that the game is rigged in our favor, that we're the casino and even when we lose, we eventually win. That shift in mindset really helps me.

David Brooks asked, "Are you living for your resume, or are you living for your eulogy?" That got me thinking a couple of years ago and I started thinking about when your parents die, you're next. Should I spend my time worried? Stressed? Can I maximize my gratitude and remember how lucky I am? Can I spend more time looking at art, reading great works of literature, understanding our psychology, our spirit? Can I just be unconditionally happy, or is that a crock? Dunno, I'm attempting to find out.

Death is around the corner for all of us. Better maximize that happiness now, even in the hospital, even in the divorce proceedings, even at the funerals, because it's coming for all of us. If you don't love getting up at 4 to work on your dream, that's ok. Maybe it's not meant for you. Seems easy though. If someone told me all I had to do was wake up early and work for 3 hours on my dream every day and I'd achieve it, I'd sign up for that. But energy, interest, mental state all rise and fall with the tides, the seasons, etc. Negativity is common for me. Hating it comes and goes. But when I choose to just abide by a few principles every day, I find I love it. I wouldn't trade it. No way I'd go back to former me.

At one point I had all the money and the time I wanted, and I got depressed because the promised land wasn't what I thought. I walked around like a ghost that's seen the other side and can't unsee it. Had to get back to doing something with purpose, and in a hurry because I was getting fat and high on life, and could feel that edge dulling.

I love the pain.

Fall in love with your work kids.
The game is stacking up beautiful moments so you can remember them before the curtain falls.

 

[Funky Monkey]

Hello, fellow Fastlaners,

Lately, I've been thinking of the importance of loving the journey rather than focusing on the destination.

Do any of you have any insightful tips on how we can achieve this mindset? To help with waking up early, putting in relentless effort towards our businesses, prioritizing our health, engaging in regular workouts, and continuously striving for self-improvement. I would greatly appreciate any advice, quotes, tips, tricks, or hacks that you believe would be beneficial for a fellow Fastlaner like myself.

I agree with Black Dragon you don't have to love the journey but for me personally listening to interviews with people like Elon,Palmer Luckey,Peter Theil,etc I see entreprenuership as a way to make the world a better place (as corny as that is)

 

[MJ DeMarco]

I'm a weirdo. I love the shit out of my journey. WTF are you doing this for if you don't love it?
15, 20, 30 years of not loving it, so you can hit the promised land and live with a smile for a couple years? FTS.

Death is around the corner for all of us. Better maximize that happiness now, even in the pit of shit, even in the divorce proceedings, even at the funerals, because it's coming for all of us. If you don't love getting up at 4 to work on your dream, maybe you don't want it enough. Seems easy though. If someone told me all I had to do was wake up early and work for 3 hours on my dream every day and I'd achieve it, I'd sign up for that.

At one point I had all the money and the time I wanted, and I got depressed because the promised land wasn't what I thought. I walked around like a ghost that's seen the other side and can't unsee it. Had to get back to doing something with purpose, and in a hurry because I was getting fat and high on life, and could feel that edge dulling.

I love the pain. Of course, I pay to go fight.

Fall in love with your work kids. The game is stacking up beautiful moments so you can remember them before the curtain falls.

Embracing the pain and enduring the discomfort is NOT the same as hating your life.

Hard decisions = Easy life.
Easy decisions = Hard life.

 

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[PapaGang]

Embracing the pain and enduring the discomfort is NOT the same as hating your life.

Hard decisions = Easy life.
Easy decisions = Hard life.

 

[DistressedDenim]

Who told you that you have to love the journey?

Nobody loves the journey, because nobody loves pain. You don’t love the pain of lifting those huge a$$ weights in the gym - F*ck, you hate that.

But you do it because you love the result more than you hate the pain.

So the answer you’re looking for is to change your mindset. You don’t need to love something to do it, you just need to be disciplined and do what it takes to take yourself closer to your goals.

Some people are like Warren Buffet and enjoy the process as much if not more than the results. I think those types of people are probably more successful statistically. For them, providing value comes first, and the money just happens to roll in.

 

[adnanazmi]

I agree I feel like I can love the journey as well. There is something I feel like I am missing though. Maybe it is discipline or maybe it is strong enough negative feeling like to prove others wrong etc.

I'm a weirdo. I love the shit out of my journey. WTF are you doing this for if you don't love it?
15, 20, 30 years of not loving it, so you can hit the promised land and live with a smile for a couple years? FTS.

Death is around the corner for all of us. Better maximize that happiness now, even in the hospital, even in the divorce proceedings, even at the funerals, because it's coming for all of us. If you don't love getting up at 4 to work on your dream, maybe you don't want it enough. Seems easy though. If someone told me all I had to do was wake up early and work for 3 hours on my dream every day and I'd achieve it, I'd sign up for that. Negativity is common. Hating it comes and goes.

At one point I had all the money and the time I wanted, and I got depressed because the promised land wasn't what I thought. I walked around like a ghost that's seen the other side and can't unsee it. Had to get back to doing something with purpose, and in a hurry because I was getting fat and high on life, and could feel that edge dulling.

I love the pain.

Fall in love with your work kids. The game is stacking up beautiful moments so you can remember them before the curtain falls.

 

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[Paul David]

Here's an old thread of mine that relates.

GOLD! - MINDSET - Why only certain people "enjoy" the process? (Or is it something else?)

I hear successful entrepreneurs say it quite a lot on motivation youtube videos or seminars. Instead of focussing on the end goal, enjoy the journey and process along the way they say. Personally for the majority of people in business i think it's bullshit. If you're just starting out in...

www.thefastlaneforum.com

 

[heavy_industry]

How to enjoy the journey?

You understand that the destination does not exist. You will never "get there", because it's a moving target. As soon as you will hit your number and achieve your goal... nothing will happen. Nothing.

You'll go ahead and set a bigger goal and then resume the journey.

This is the nature of our life. The journey ends when we're 6 feet under. Until then, we will constantly seek more action. This is how our brain works.


Another key component of enjoying the process is to fully embrace fear, pain, discomfort and effort.

Those are my best friends.

They always show me the right path. They always tell me that I should be better and do better.


For example, in bodybuilding:

Every single training session is characterized by pain and suffering. Every set is performed to failure. I grunt in pain like a F*cking wild animal under the heavy iron.

I F*cking love it.

The exact same thing happens with business.

This is how you life is going to look like. Every day, the battle begins again.

It never gets easier, you just get stronger.

 

[PapaGang]

I agree I feel like I can love the journey as well. There is something I feel like I am missing though. Maybe it is discipline or maybe it is strong enough negative feeling like to prove others wrong etc.

I know what you mean. I think part of the meaning of life is this search. You have to search it out. And I find when I open myself up to possibility, when I start working towards something, doors open.

Maybe this helps: use some design thinking and start recording your energy levels. Keep a daily log and record your high points. What were you doing that really gave you energy, made you feel good? Keep a log for 30 days and look back. I found my energy was high when:
• I was doing something physical
• I was creating (in the studio or in the kitchen or at my computer—didn't matter)
• I was solving a problem for someone
• I was interacting with a group of people
• It involved food, hospitality, bikes, outdoor activity, cars, or design
• I was doing anything that involved high level thinking (synthesis of ideas, planning, structure)

Then, I created some prototypes of my future that incorporated these elements, along with my skills.
Example: working with a small, locally owned food/bev business to help them with their marketing.

I found that I loved doing this work and more importantly I really made a positive impact on their business. The work I put in has changed the course of what they do and how they do it. That's the best part. I had a positive impact. I got paid, sure, but that was an afterthought. It was validation. What I do matters. AND it 100% did not feel like work. I loved it. Every day of it.

Maybe give it a try?

 

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[PapaGang]

Every single training session is characterized by pain and suffering. Every set is performed to failure. I grunt in pain like a F*cking wild animal under the heavy iron.

I F*cking love it.

 

[PapaGang]

This conversation reminds me of this:

“To the untrained eye ego-climbing and selfless climbing may appear identical. Both kinds of climbers place one foot in front of the other. Both breathe in and out at the same rate. Both stop when tired. Both go forward when rested. But what a difference! The ego-climber is like an instrument that’s out of adjustment. He puts his foot down an instant too soon or too late. He’s likely to miss a beautiful passage of sunlight through the trees. He goes on when the sloppiness of his step shows he’s tired. He rests at odd times. He looks up the trail trying to see what’s ahead even when he knows what’s ahead because he just looked a second before. He goes too fast or too slow for the conditions and when he talks his talk is forever about somewhere else, something else. He’s here but he’s not here. He rejects the here, he’s unhappy with it, wants to be farther up the trail but when he gets there will be just as unhappy because then *it* will be “here”. What he’s looking for, what he wants, is all around him, but he doesn’t want that because it *is* all around him. Every step’s an effort, both physically and spiritually, because he imagines his goal to be external and distant.”

–Robert Pirsig, Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance

From what I can tell from TMF , MJ internalized his goal to create an awesome resource for people who needed limo service. He gave up partying and going out on the weekends, he lived in his small apartment and put himself in it, spiritually and physically. He lived it. What a commitment. The world seems to make way for people who do such things.

I don't think anything great comes without pain and effort and hardship and heartbreak. Somehow a lot of you guys seem to embrace it, even welcome it, and I think that's the difference. The journey sucks. The journey is amazing.

 

[Kevin88660]

Hello, fellow Fastlaners,

Lately, I've been thinking of the importance of loving the journey rather than focusing on the destination.

Do any of you have any insightful tips on how we can achieve this mindset? To help with waking up early, putting in relentless effort towards our businesses, prioritizing our health, engaging in regular workouts, and continuously striving for self-improvement. I would greatly appreciate any advice, quotes, tips, tricks, or hacks that you believe would be beneficial for a fellow Fastlaner like myself.

Reconditioning the brain and value.

Reject civilian worldview. Watch videos of special forces going through training

Everything you said will become slightly easier.

 

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