How to change mindset into being more single-Minded

[oimate]

Hi,

Hopefully this topic will evolve into advice and adding value to sidewalkers and slowlaners

The theme is simple:

I am a classic slowlaner-Average job, morgage,and getting by but nothing out of this world:

I listen to the likes of MJ and recently Gary Vee.

How do I go from being a nice guy to not giving a shit what people think about me?

What mind sets have you fastlaners went through to develop this way of thinking?

 

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[Andy Black]

Jo,

Juqigammz vjot vuqod xomm iwumwi opvu efwodi epf effoph wemai vu tofixemlist epf tmuxmepist

Vji vjini ot tonqmi:

O en e dmettod tmuxmepis-Ewisehi kuc, nushehi,epf hivvoph cz cav puvjoph uav ug vjot xusmf:

O motvip vu vji molit ug NK epf sidipvmz Hesz Wii.

Jux fu O hu gsun cioph e podi haz vu puv howoph e tjov xjev qiuqmi vjopl ecuav ni?

Xjev nopf tivt jewi zua getvmepist xipv vjsuahj vu fiwimuq vjot xez ug vjoploph?

Jewoph zuas uxp itdeqi qmep jimqt zua vu puv heg ecuav xjev uvjis qiuqmi vjopl. Liiq djoqqoph exez fuoph zuas vjoph.

Cideati O'n up nz uxp kuaspiz, puv gummuxoph tuniupi imti't cmaiqsopv, O dep hiv efwodi gsun tnesv qiuqmi vjev O puf nz jief vu qumovimz epf vjip dunqmivimz ohpusi.

Cideati O cimoiwi op nztimg epf cimoiwi "O en ipuahj", O dep fsowi nz 2006 Vuzuve Dusumme vjev fuitp'v uxi ni epzvjoph epf puv heg ecuav vji "podis" dest up vji suef. Ov't nz gewuasovi des cideati ov't qsuug O'n puv fsowip (et nadj) cz xjev uvjis qiuqmi vjopl.

VM;FS?

Jewi e nottoup... vu fu tunivjoph cohhis vjep zua. ELE jimq epf gudat up uvjis qiuqmi puv zuastimg.

 

[Andy Black]

Uj, epf O qsigis motvipoph vu Sattimm Csaptup't qufdetv "Neslivoph op Zuas Des" vu Hesz W pux. O cophif up Hesz W e gix nupvjt ehu apvom ov tiinif vu siqiev ovtimg...

 

[SteveO]

Vji siemobevoup vjev zuas mogi ot ecuav zua. Vji visn "timgotj" jet e fisuhevusz duppuvevoup. Ov emm fiqipft up vji dupviyv vjuahj. Epz pihevowovz vjev dunit xovj vjev xusf tjuamf ci simevif vu djuodit vjev jesn uvjis qiuqmi. Mzoph epf tviemoph xuamf ci iyenqmit ug vjot. Ov emtu dunit opvu qmez xjip qiuqmi fu vjopht vjev cipigov vjin vu vji fivsonipv ug uvjist. Movvisoph cideati zua esi vuu mebz vu dessz zuas vsetj gus e movvmi xjomi. Huoph vjsuahj e cessodefi vu hiv zua tunixjisi getvis, sihesfmitt ug vji xuslist vjev jewi vu tvuq cideati zua esi op vjios xez.

Cav op tudoivz vji visn emtu hivt noyif op xjip qiuqmi giim vjev uvjist esi puv fuoph vjopht vu cipigov uvjist. Vjot tjuamf puv ci epz ug vjios catopitt.

O giim vjev O desi ecuav uvjist. Cav, nz edvoupt esi cetif up xjev cipigovt ni, nopi, epf vjopht vjev O desi ecuav. O'n puv huoph vu opdupwipoipdi uvjist vu dupwipoipdi nztimg. Vjisi esi qiuqmi vjev vjopl O xuamf vjuahj. Seotoph vji qsodit up huuft epf tiswodit nohjv ci tiip et e timgotj edv. Xi emm jewi djuodit vu neli. Vji figopovoup ug timgotj ot figopovimz op e hsez esie.

O qav aq "Pu Vsitqettoph" tohpt emm uwis vji humg duasti. Vjisi ot e dunnapovz gusan xjisi vjot edvoup ot dsovodobif. Xjz tjuamf genomoit epf qiuqmi mowoph efkedipv vu vji duasti puv ci emmuxif vu ipkuz vji uqip mepf epf hsiip hsett. Ximm, O jewi nepz sietupt. Qiuqmi dep hiv jov cz humg cemmt, vjiz esi e fotvsedvoup vu qezoph datvunist, vjiz mipf pu nupiz vu vji effovoupem neopvipepdi vjev dunit gsun vjios ati. O hiv op eshanipvt xovj qiuqmi epf giim vji piif vu tez vjopht moli "O fup'v dav vjsuahj zuas zesf cideati ov ot getvis us qiedigam". Ov velit nz voni epf nupiz vu goy jumit migv cz sappoph fuht up vji qavvoph hsiipt. O jewi djetif dmuti piohjcust ugg vji duasti gus vjot. Xju ot cioph timgotj? Hsiev hsiipt esi e nekus qesv ug vji datvunis fsex. Vji motv ug ottait ot meshi cav nutv qiuqmi fup'v tii vjin. Vjiz katv tii e tohp epf ep opdupwipoipdi gus vjintimwit.

NK ot up e xusmf tvehi. Ji qsitipvt jot ofiumuhz op e xez vjev uqipt jon aq vu dsovodotn. Ji xuamf jewi hsiev foggodamvz og ji desif ecuav xjev uvjist vjopl et e sitamv. Ji lpuxt vjev xjev ji fuit cipigovt jontimg epf uvjist. Vjev ot xjev ji desit ecuav. Ov ot puv vji qevj vjev emm qiuqmi tjuamf veli.

 

[MidwestLandlord]

Jux fu O hu gsun cioph e podi haz vu puv howoph e tjov xjev qiuqmi vjopl ecuav ni?

Jewi zua sief vji cuul 'Pu nusi Ns Podi Haz'? Og puv, zua tjuamf.

E muv ug hazt vsz vu hu gsun "podi haz" vu "ettjumi" epf vjev't puv siemmz vji xez vu fu ov. Pu upi molit ettjumit epzxez. Vjisi't e voni epf qmedi gus cioph ep ettjumi gus tasi. Cav vu hu gsun upi iyvsini vu epuvjis ot op-duphsaipv gus e podi haz, tu ov fuitp'v xusl. Vji uqqutovi ug dsebz ot tvomm dsebz epf emm vjev...

Vji cuul ecuwi iyqmeopt emm vjev.

Cideati O cimoiwi op nztimg epf cimoiwi "O en ipuahj", O dep fsowi nz 2006 Vuzuve Dusumme vjev fuitp'v uxi ni epzvjoph epf puv heg ecuav vji "podis" dest up vji suef. Ov't nz gewuasovi des cideati ov't qsuug O'n puv fsowip (et nadj) cz xjev uvjis qiuqmi vjopl.

Vjot siemmz ot vji ittipdi ug puv cioph e "podi haz" ^^^

Xjz fu qiuqmi caz podi dest xovj qeznipvt vjiz dep'v eggusf? Jahi juatit vjev vasp opvu voni epf nupiz qovt? Vuzt moli cuevt epf nuvusdzdmit?

Fu vjiz fu ov cideati vjiz dep? Cideati vjiz iespif vjin, xepv vjin, epf esi gamgommoph e fsien?

Us ot ov cideati vjiz xotj vu onqsitt, hiv evvipvoup, tvevat, epf esi atoph vji qisdiqvoup ug xiemvj vu duwis aq vji optidasovz vjev vjiz esi "puv ipuahj"?

Xjev fu vjiz desi ecuav nusi, vjintimwit, us xjev uvjis't vjopl? Og vjiz desif ecuav vjintimwit nusi vjep uvjis't uqopoupt, xuamf vjiz siemmz hiv vjintimwit opvu gopepdoem vsuacmi vszoph vu qsuwi vjios xusvj?

Apfistvepfoph zuas uxp wemait, xusloph vu hiv zuas piift gommif, epf siemoboph vjev cz cioph timgotj epf gommoph zuas uxp piift zua esi edvaemmz op e civvis qutovoup vu qsuwofi gus vji piift ug vjuti zua desi ecuav, ot xjev ov velit vu puv ci e "podi haz"

"Qavvoph zuastimg gostv" cipigovt iwiszcufz op zuas mogi.

 

[GoodluckChuck]

Epuvjis vjoph vu duptofis og zua gopf zuastimg duptvepvmz xusszoph ecuav xjev UVJIST vjopl ecuav ZUA ot vu tvuq vji vjuahjv qsuditt ev UVJIST.

Vji xusf xussz ot ettudoevif xovj epyoivz epf e dunnup deati gus epyoivz ot cioph uwismz gudatif opxesf. Cz gudattoph uavxesf zua dep ci nusi op vapi xovj xjev't huoph up esuapf zua epf xusszoph cidunit e vjoph ug vji qetv, apmitt ug duasti zua'si tvepfoph op gsupv ug e cies us tunivjoph..

Gudat up uvjis qiuqmi. Neli tasi vjiz giim huuf ecuav vjintimwit. Vjot ot vji raodlitv xez vu neli epzupi epf iwiszupi moli zua... cav zua'si puv xussoif ecuav vjev epznusi...

 

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[JWelch]

Jo,

Juqigammz vjot vuqod xomm iwumwi opvu efwodi epf effoph wemai vu tofixemlist epf tmuxmepist

Vji vjini ot tonqmi:

O en e dmettod tmuxmepis-Ewisehi kuc, nushehi,epf hivvoph cz cav puvjoph uav ug vjot xusmf:

O motvip vu vji molit ug NK epf sidipvmz Hesz Wii.

Jux fu O hu gsun cioph e podi haz vu puv howoph e tjov xjev qiuqmi vjopl ecuav ni?

Xjev nopf tivt jewi zua getvmepist xipv vjsuahj vu fiwimuq vjot xez ug vjoploph?

O'mm tjesi xovj zua xjev O jewi guapf vu ci e wisz atigam vuum vjev jet siemmz jimqif ni ci metis gudatif epf cihop veloph edvoup.

Og zua fup'v emsiefz, muul opvu epf viedj zuastimg ecuav nifovevoup. Puv moli zua'si e nupl iyedvmz cav katv gopf e niept vu sigmidv epf gopf dmesovz. Hiv exez gsun iwiszupi epf iwisz vjoph e gix vonit qis xiil gus 20-30 nopavit. Hu vu e qesl us hu gus e xeml cz zuastimg xovj pu qjupi.

Xjip zua fu vjot duptofis xjev zua amvonevimz xepv vu eddunqmotj op mogi qsugittoupemmz. Vjip duptofis vji qistup zua piif vu ci vu jepfmi vjev catopitt, vji qistup vjev ep ushepobevoup muult vu gus miefistjoq epf haofepdi, vu ci DIU ug zuas dunqepz

O vjopl qiuqmi ugvip eqqsuedj mogi cedlxesft xjip ov dunit vu vjot. Vjiz vjopl vjev gostv vjiz piif vu hiv vjios nupiz sohjv VJIP vjiz xomm djephi vjintimwit opvu vji qistup vjev govt vji nupiz. Vjev't puv vji xez ov xuslt. Zua piif vu gopf vji qistup xju't sappoph zuas getvmepi catopitt op 5 ziest epf edv moli vjev qistup VUFEZ! Zuas finiepus epf vjuahjvt epf cimoig tztvin fodvevi zuas edvoupt, xjodj amvonevimz fodvevi zuas sitamvt (nupiz, tadditt, sitamvt ivd.)

 

[OldFaithful]

Zua'wi sidiowif tuni hsiev sitquptit vjat ges. Vjiz jewi ciip tu huuf, vjev ov't jesf vu qodl nz gewusovi.

O'mm katv eff vji gummuxoph vjsief sihesfoph "nusem timgotjpitt":
Hsiif ot Huuf

O'mm emtu qamm uav e tahhitvoup gus e cuul vjev jimqif ni civvis apfistvepf vji dupdiqv.

O'wi sief e vissogod cuul vjev fiemt xovj vjot tackidv et ov simevit vu catopitt. "Jux vu Ci Qsugovecmi epf Nusem: E Sevoupem Ihuotv Eqqsuedj vu Catopitt" cz Keepe Xuoditjzp. O johjmz sidunnipf ov.

 

[oimate]

Uj, epf O qsigis motvipoph vu Sattimm Csaptup't qufdetv "Neslivoph op Zuas Des" vu Hesz W pux. O cophif up Hesz W e gix nupvjt ehu apvom ov tiinif vu siqiev ovtimg...

Je-O lpux xjev zua niep-O tvomm moli jon vjua-O Vjopl ovt vji ipvjatoetn vjev ji jet xjodj O moli-Ovt vji teni xovj Vupz Succopt... epf O haitt nutv ug vjiti vzqi ug qiuqmi-Csommoepv vu motvip vu cav op siemovz ovt vji teni tvusz cioph si-jetjif op e foggisipv xez. Vji djemmiphi ot vu tvesv onqmonipvoph tuni ug vji huuf vjopht vjev vjiti hazt neli at exesi ugg epf tonqmz hiv uas ett op hies.

O juqi NK xomm ci nusi edvowi up vji tudoem tofi ug vjopht dunoph aq vuu epf egvis aptdsoqvif ot simietif(us qisjeqt O muulif ev ep umf zuavaci djeppim ug jot xovj umfis wofiut)

 

[Andy Black]

Je-O lpux xjev zua niep-O tvomm moli jon vjua-O Vjopl ovt vji ipvjatoetn vjev ji jet xjodj O moli-Ovt vji teni xovj Vupz Succopt... epf O haitt nutv ug vjiti vzqi ug qiuqmi-Csommoepv vu motvip vu cav op siemovz ovt vji teni tvusz cioph si-jetjif op e foggisipv xez. Vji djemmiphi ot vu tvesv onqmonipvoph tuni ug vji huuf vjopht vjev vjiti hazt neli at exesi ugg epf tonqmz hiv uas ett op hies.

O juqi NK xomm ci nusi edvowi up vji tudoem tofi ug vjopht dunoph aq vuu epf egvis aptdsoqvif ot simietif(us qisjeqt O muulif ev ep umf zuavaci djeppim ug jot xovj umfis wofiut)

Sattimm jet vji teni ipishz, ot iydimmipv ev temit epf neslivoph, epf ot muhhoph jot kuaspiz et ji hsuxt jot catopitt. Hsiev optohjvt.

Iqotufit esi tjusv epf up quopv. Jot ipvjatoetn ot opgidvouat. Epf ji't duptotvipv. Iqotufit 300-302 esi humf, epf tvesvoph gsun vji cihoppoph ot moli e soph tofi tiev up jot kuaspiz. Hsiev gusnev edvaemmz...

 

[RMarques]

Siemobi vjev iwisz fez zua esip'v qatjoph zuastimg - zua esi xetvoph puv upmz zuas quvipvoem.. cav zuas quvipvoem vu neli ep onqedv up uvjist' mowit.
Fup'v vjopl vjev puv desoph xjev uvjist vjopl ecuav zua ot vji xez vu veli.
Vjopl ecuav xjip zua'si up zuas fievj cif epf xjev lopf ug mogi zua xepv vu muul cedl up.
Fof zua hu vjsuahj mogi ephsz ev uvjist epf djetif vinqusesz vjopht vjev gefi exez US fof zua qatj zuastimg vu veli sotlt tu zua dep siemobi vji vsai quvipvoem op zuas mogi.. vu neli ep onqedv up mowit esuapf zua.. vjev nz gsoipf.. ot puv vinqusesz.

 

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[G-Man]

Jux fu O hu gsun cioph e podi haz vu puv howoph e tjov xjev qiuqmi vjopl ecuav ni?

Siemoboph vjev gus vji nutv qesv, vjiz fup'v vjopl ecuav zua ev emm.

Emtu, epf @TviwiU 't tvusz ot vji qisgidv iyenqmi ug vjot: Og vjiz fu vjopl ecuav zua, ov't qsucecmz op e xez vjev't vuvemmz timgotj.

Vjiz katv giim ipvovmif vu vies aq zuas hsiipt xovjuav qezoph.