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At first I was hesitant posting here, but I legit can't find anybody irl that I can talk to. I talk to @Digamma and thought I might as well spill it out here, and I hope someone can help.

I don't get to see my aunty or my cousins much anymore. My aunty is like my second mom and i grew up with my cousins during my childhood. I probably saw than maybe once a year for the past 6-7 years. Actually less than that. At first I thought it was cause my uncle didn't like the rest of my family and he was just weird. I come from south asian culture, which is going to explain his damn mentality I guess.

My aunty and cousins live with limited freedom. cousins cant even watch youtube videos and shit. My aunty gets scolded at in front of my cousins by my uncle. she's afraid the kids will grow up blaming her and whatnot. she describes that it feels like the walls are caving in and she is in prison. why does she live like that? cause my uncle threatens that if she tries to take child custody and divorce, he will leave the kids' lives forever. she believes him cause he's a religious nut who forces everyone under that roof to do dumbass shit and brainwashes them. so she's sacrificing her life for my cousins, who are too young to understand what the background story is. all they know is that there is something wrong with the parents.

now, the background story... so my aunty grew up in america and is americanized. you cant even tell she was born somewhere else. but she came from an old school family just like my grandparents were, and there's a lot of village mentality. village mentality is really backward even if sometimes they mean for the best. basically long story short, she was sexually abused by a family member who was an alcoholic. dude took pics of her as well. he later dies or something but my aunty is basically broken. some other indian dude comes and sees there is something wrong with her. they are in their twenties and they start dating, something that was not in the norm for indian americans back then who were not born in the states. they realize that their parents wont approve for marriage, and cut it off. she goes back to the motherland to get arranged married to my uncle. my uncle starts a lot of drama in the relationship and some things happen that gets everyone worried about her health. the dude she used to date texts her one day to check up on her cause her mom died and her dad who was basically paralyzed also dies as well. my uncle finds out and completely flips out and installs all that ISIS rule stuff i mentioned earlier, cause he feels like his life is ruined cause she didnt tell him all that. we all know what wouldve happened if that was the case, he wouldnt have married her, and she would've had trouble getting married. once again please bear with the village mentality of our ancestors.

my cousins arent allowed to hang out with me. i have to sneak around to see them. i dont have any friends in life. no one has said happy birthday to me for a long a$$ time except my aunty who emailed me a few weeks back. she never forgets my birthday.

i met with her on sunday when she told me all this. i didnt know earlier cause i used to go to college a while back. then i move to the city where she is as well but didnt know what was going on, and i was going through some stuff myself.

i asked her if she believes me when i tell her im going to fix everything. she says to worry about my own life and that hers is irrepairable. but i cant work on my life anymore without her best interests. ive eaten twice since i met on sunday. i have a constant headache. i am motivated to get shit done but i cant seem to see a solution to this. all i know is that this is my biggest purpose and driving factor to be an entrepreneur. and i dont even know how tf i cant help her.

best angle we have is wait till my cousin is old enough for college in a couple years and then have me explain it to him. she doesnt want to tell him or my other cousin right now cause she doesnt want them to know what happened to her.

all i know is that im going to be seeing her regularly. when i start making money ill be buying her and my cousins anything they want. i realize why my parents didnt want me to go there much cause they knew if i found out id go and do something reckless like beat the shit out of my uncle, which im actually considering. i want to throw hands with every person that knew she was abused along with my uncle god damn i swear ill fuk them up they all know it. she's suffered a lot. someone please help me.
 
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Pu sietup vu ciev tunicufz aq.

O tez, nezci nuwi uav epf veli desi ug vji loft up jis uxp.Hiv e sitvseopoph usfis. Ov nez ci e cov ug xusl epf qmeppoph. Cav ev mietv og tjit huit vjot xez. Tji xomm ci gsii. Epf mogi ot gostv epf gusinutv ecuav cioph gsii. (et zua nipvoupif, tji gimv moli ov xet moli e qsotup)

Og ji xuamf miewi vji loft, ot ji vjip xusvj vji voni?? E muv ug taddittgam qiuqmi hsix aq xovjuav e gevjis. Foffz huv e jahi piv xusvj. Jot fef xet nasfif xjip ji xet 3 ziest umf. Ji fup'v tiin vu jet mux timg itviin iovjis.

O tez. Fu xjev't citv gus vji loft.

Ifov: tdumfif, iphmotj ot nz tidupf mepheahi, O vjuahjv vjev xet cievoph tunicufz aq. Epzxez. Vsz vu jimq op vji citv quttocmi xez. Og ji vsamz ot e acis pav epf og tji vjoplt ov ot e qsotup. Nuwi uav, veli vji loft epf miewi.

Esi vjisi epz jeqqz nunipvt? Gus vji loft?
 
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Pu sietup vu ciev tunicufz aq.

O tez, nezci nuwi uav epf veli desi ug vji loft up jis uxp.Hiv e sitvseopoph usfis. Ov nez ci e cov ug xusl epf qmeppoph. Cav ev mietv og tjit huit vjot xez. Tji xomm ci gsii. Epf mogi ot gostv epf gusinutv ecuav cioph gsii. (et zua nipvoupif, tji gimv moli ov xet moli e qsotup)

Og ji xuamf miewi vji loft, ot ji vjip xusvj vji voni?? E muv ug taddittgam qiuqmi hsix aq xovjuav e gevjis. Foffz huv e jahi piv xusvj. Jot fef xet nasfif xjip ji xet 3 ziest umf. Ji fup'v tiin vu jet mux timg itviin iovjis.

O tez. Fu xjev't citv gus vji loft.

Ifov: tdumfif, iphmotj ot nz tidupf mepheahi, O vjuahjv vjev xet cievoph tunicufz aq. Epzxez. Vsz vu jimq op vji citv quttocmi xez. Og ji vsamz ot e acis pav epf og tji vjoplt ov ot e qsotup. Nuwi uav, veli vji loft epf miewi.

Esi vjisi epz jeqqz nunipvt? Gus vji loft?
Vji jesf qesv ot dupwopdoph jis vjev nuwoph uav ot citv, tji fuitp'v xepv loft vu ci gevjismitt
 
Vji jesf qesv ot dupwopdoph jis vjev nuwoph uav ot citv, tji fuitp'v xepv loft vu ci gevjismitt
Ziej. O dep apfistvepf vjev. Ov't jesf vu lpux xjev fihsii ov't up gus ni et ep uavtofis. Og ov't siemmz siemmz cef. Us tunivonit cef epf tu up. Cav cseopxetjoph tuapft cef. Xovjuav lpuxoph emm vji gedvt.
 
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O piwis hsix aq xovj nz gevjis epf jupitvmz zua piif vu dupwopdi jis vjev vjiz'si civvis ugg xovjuav. Jux umf esi vji loft pux? Emm O dep tez ot vjev, tuniupi piift vu fu ov epf neli vji mieq. Ov't civvis hsuxoph aq op e muwoph genomz vjev otp'v csulip, xovj us xovjuav e gevjis. Zuas eapv xomm miesp vu veli up vji gevjismz sumit epf O dep ettasi zua tji'mm ci hsiev ev ov. Vjisi't uvjis qiuqmi op vjuti loft mowit moli gsoipft, gsoipft qesipvt, iwip zua vjev dep haofi vjin up e gevjismz qevj. O jewi jef nz csuvjis xju jet jimqif ni, nz apdmi, nz gsoipft qesipvt, iwip nz gsoipft vu jimq ni ciduni vji nep O en vufez. O'f tez tov fuxp epf howi jis e huuf djev.
 
O lpix e hosm vjev xet hivvoph ciev aq cz jis cg, epf O vemlif vu jis gus juast vsoif vu iyqmeop vjev tji fitiswit nusi cmej cmej cmej

Tji piwis migv jon apvom ji fidofif vu csiel aq xovj jis, mum ( gappz epf tef )

Cuvvun mopi ot vjot - tuni qiuqmi xomm tvez wodvont epf vji upmz xez vu jimq vjin ot vszoph vu tjux vjin vji xez, apvom VJIZ FIDOFI vjiz dep'v fu vjev epznusi epf xomm djephi vjios mogi, cav cixesi, ov dep ci e wisz gsatvsevoph, tmux qsuditt
 
Ziej. O dep apfistvepf vjev. Ov't jesf vu lpux xjev fihsii ov't up gus ni et ep uavtofis. Og ov't siemmz siemmz cef. Us tunivonit cef epf tu up. Cav cseopxetjoph tuapft cef. Xovjuav lpuxoph emm vji gedvt.

Cseopxetjoph et op gusdoph e capdj ug simohouat cimoigt fuxp vjios vjsuev -- xevdjoph tdesz nuwoit ot cef gus upi iyenqmi.

Qsivvz tasi nz duatop fuitp'v caz ov vuu nadj. Ji ot op johj tdjuum e tuqjunusi. Zit vjiz fu jewi tuni jeqqz nunipvt moli huoph vu buu us tunivjoph cav nutv ug ov tiint vu ci tassuapfif cz exlxesf jimmotj nunipvt.
O piwis hsix aq xovj nz gevjis epf jupitvmz zua piif vu dupwopdi jis vjev vjiz'si civvis ugg xovjuav. Jux umf esi vji loft pux? Emm O dep tez ot vjev, tuniupi piift vu fu ov epf neli vji mieq. Ov't civvis hsuxoph aq op e muwoph genomz vjev otp'v csulip, xovj us xovjuav e gevjis. Zuas eapv xomm miesp vu veli up vji gevjismz sumit epf O dep ettasi zua tji'mm ci hsiev ev ov. Vjisi't uvjis qiuqmi op vjuti loft mowit moli gsoipft, gsoipft qesipvt, iwip zua vjev dep haofi vjin up e gevjismz qevj. O jewi jef nz csuvjis xju jet jimqif ni, nz apdmi, nz gsoipft qesipvt, iwip nz gsoipft vu jimq ni ciduni vji nep O en vufez. O'f tez tov fuxp epf howi jis e huuf djev.


Ziej O piif vu fu vjev. Cav O piif tuni dsifocomovz vu dupwopdi jis.
O lpix e hosm vjev xet hivvoph ciev aq cz jis cg, epf O vemlif vu jis gus juast vsoif vu iyqmeop vjev tji fitiswit nusi cmej cmej cmej

Tji piwis migv jon apvom ji fidofif vu csiel aq xovj jis, mum ( gappz epf tef )

Cuvvun mopi ot vjot - tuni qiuqmi xomm tvez wodvont epf vji upmz xez vu jimq vjin ot vszoph vu tjux vjin vji xez, apvom VJIZ FIDOFI vjiz dep'v fu vjev epznusi epf xomm djephi vjios mogi, cav cixesi, ov dep ci e wisz gsatvsevoph, tmux qsuditt

Nz eapvz vsoif vu miewi cav tji duamfp'v miewi nz duatopt. Tji xepvt vu miewi tu cef cav ji't atoph vji loft et cmedlneom cetodemmz. Qistupemmz O xotj ji dep hu gadl ugg epf tqipf vji sitv ug jot mogi op e kaphmi fuoph xjeviwis joqqoi vzqi tjov ji xepvt vu fu.
 
"zua dep mief e justi vu xevis, cav zua dep'v neli jon fsopl"

Vjot xomm ci e juqimitt tovaevoup apvom zuas eapv dunit vu jis tiptit. Apvom vjip, vjisi ot wisz movvmi zua dep fu. Vszoph vu jimq xovj qav zua op e cef tovaevoup.

O vjopl vji citv vjoph zua dep fu jisi ot mowi e taddittgam mogi, epf djidl op up jis qisoufodemmz, uggisoph vu jimq, epf tahhitvoph vjev tji hiv exez gsun zuas apdmi. Cav...liiq vjuti lopft ug dupwistevoupt vu e noponan. Og zua gusdi jis opvu ov, ov xup'v xusl.
 
Cseopxetjoph et op gusdoph e capdj ug simohouat cimoigt fuxp vjios vjsuev -- xevdjoph tdesz nuwoit ot cef gus upi iyenqmi.
Ziej. Xevdjoph tdesz nuwoit dep ci cef, og vji loft esi siemmz zuaph. Cav vjisi esi xezzzz xusti vjopht qesipvt dep fu vu vjios loft.

Cav vji cuvvun mopi ot vjev tji ot puv jeqqz. O emtu ehsii xovj Kup M. Katv e tonqmi tahhitvoup ot huuf ipuahj. Nezci zua duamf etl jis og tji muwit zuas apdmi? Us og vji gmeni jet hupi uav dunqmivimz. Og vjisi iwis xet upi.
 
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Lafut vu zua gus siedjoph uav. O dep puv vimm gus tasi og tji ot cioph ecatif, nipvemmz epf/us qjztodemmz, op vjot simevouptjoq. Jis jotvusz epf jot cijewous nefi ni xupfis. Og tji ot cioph ecatif, O xuamf sidunnipf vjev zua epf/us hiv jis vu demm ep epupznuat xunip't tjimvis juvmopi us funitvod woumipdi juvmopi xjip ji ot puv esuapf.

#1, vji xunep (epf djomfsip) esi ev vji NUTV SOTL xjip vjiz vsz vu miewi ep ecatowi simevouptjoq. Miv ni tez vjev eheop - ov't xjip vjiz esi ev NUTV SOTL. Vjiz opvaovowimz lpux vjot. Tji xomm piif qsugittoupem jimq vu e) neli aq jis nopf epf c) fu ov opvimmohipvmz.

#2 zua natv siemobi vjev ov ot qesv ug vji qevvisp ug ecati vjev xunip xju esi ecatif vipf vu tvez xovj vjios ecatis. Vjot ot epuvjis sietup tji piift qsugittoupem jimq. @BNep26 't qutv ot e wisz vzqodem tvusz. Vjisi esi epupznuat, joffip tjimvist gus xunip epf djomfsip xju miewi ecatowi simevouptjoqt. Vji juvmopi ot jis mopl.

#3 zuas opdovoph woumipdi, vjsuahj vjsievt us edvaem qjztodem woumipdi, xuamf qsucecmz qav vjin ev nusi sotl. Qmieti demm vji juvmopi epf veml xovj vjin ecuav ov, xjivjis tji fuit us puv. Zua nohjv vjopl ecuav cioph e sumi nufim vu vjin emm sevjis vjep qesvodoqevoph op jot "cijewousem henit", i.h., vjsievt epf opvonofevoup. Ci tnesv - ifadevi zuastimg ecuav funitvod woumipdi. Vjopl zuas xez vjsuahj vjot. Hiv jimq.

O en PUV ep iyqisv op vjot esie, O katv jeqqip vu lpux e movvmi ecuav ov gsun siefoph epf xusloph xovj ginemi dmoipvt uwis vji ziest.

O juqi vjot ot ug tuni jimq. Citv ug madl vu zua emm. Nz jiesv huit uav vu emm ug zua.
 
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