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I love to define myself as a free thinker. I follow my own path, make my own conclusions and trust myself.

The truth is, I've been fooling myself the entire time.

And if you believe you're not following the herd, chances are you're fooling yourself, too. I'll explain this with a recent example from my life.

Over the past couple of months I've been learning as much as I can about investing. I've been spending several hours a day reading about this stuff from a wide variety of sources to discover all the pros and cons of different investment vehicles.

When I woke up today, it dawned on me that during all this time looking for an investment opportunity for myself, I didn't think for myself. I let the other guy think for me.

Most people who enter the investing world decide to invest in ETFs, bonds, or maybe in a rental property just because these are all common choices. However, behind their decision there's usually a successful investor who they respect and want to imitate. Warren Buffet said invest in ETFs, so they invest in ETFs. They respect Robert Kiyosaki, so they go into real estate. Or MJ shares his money system in Unscripted , and suddenly their investment world constricts to the few choices made by MJ.

It's understandable. You don't know much about something, so you listen to somebody who does. But the truth is, nobody's perfect and your chosen expert's choice might not be a good choice for you. They might be wrong, too.

There are real estate billionaires and there are stock market billionaires. Some people will tell you that the stock market is overvalued, yet there are still guys making a killing there. Some will tell you there's a real estate bubble, yet there's always somebody making money this way. Then there will be people saying that both the stock market and real estate are useless and they invest in something entirely else.

Granted, some investment approaches are indeed dumb and there are certain rules that you need to heed no matter what, but there's more than one way to skin a cat.

Switching One Dogma for Another

Now, back to my story. I didn't think for myself because all I did was switch the mainstream financial dogmas for the dogmas of several investors I respected.

@GlobalWealth said that the stock market is overvalued so I shouldn't invest there. Instead, I should follow his strategy of acquiring apartments for short-term rental apartments all over the world even though I'll probably never travel even half as often as he does (please note that none of these people specifically told me to do so; it's just a figure of speech). @SteveO prefers direct real estate ownership, so REITs are out. @MJ DeMarco says that you should be as liquid as possible, so I should avoid real estate and stick to income-producing vehicles only. Simon Black prefers investing in private companies and agriculture all over the world so I should buy farmland in Chile. Peter Schiff likes Australia, so I should buy Australian stocks and hold the Australian currency.

All of these guys are smart investors and know what they're talking about, but suddenly I'm out of options because all the advice is contradictory. And worse, I stop asking myself what I personally think and instead I seek what another guy thinks about it and do what he says to do. If, say, Peter Schiff recommends investing in CHF, I don't ask myself why - after all, Schiff says so, and he can't be wrong, right?

This way, I don't think for myself. I follow the herd, albeit a different one that the mainstream one.

How I Got Fooled That the World Is About to End

I further discovered that my main filter for the best investment opportunity was motivated by the belief that the world was about to end. I'm optimistic about the future, but somehow this belief still anchored itself in my head. This made me believe that the only worthy investment is real estate because it exists in the physical world. And you know, the world is about to collapse and soon there won't be Internet, electricity, banks, and the stock market. Stock up on real estate before they pull the plug.

The objective truth is that the world today is increasingly more digital, and if it were ever to revert, it would be the contents of your pantry that would be valuable, not the pieces of paper proving you own a certain building (which, by the way, would be as worthless as your stocks or bonds). I should have learned how to invest in canned food, not real estate.

And brainwashed by all this, I not only stressed myself out preparing for the incoming collapse, but I also forgot one important rule: you should make investments that are compatible with you, not with the other guy. Upon this realization, I understood that my thinking process wasn't my own. I would invest in the real estate industry because some guys like it and believe the world is about to end, and not because it would be the most productive investment for me.

I'm still not sure which investment vehicle to choose, but I know one thing: I'm going to think for myself and invest my resources in what I personally believe in, not what other investors believe to be the right choice.

Don't Outsource Your Thinking

If you often find yourself looking for specific advice on what to do, chances are you aren't a true free thinker, either. There's a difference between looking for information to educate yourself about something (like, say, how to prepare a proper lease contract) and outsourcing your thinking process by seeking what an expert has said and blindly following his or her advice without running it through your own filters.

It isn't limited to investing only.

You might follow a specific diet just because a blogger you respect writes about it - even if you don't really like certain aspects of the diet (and I mean the subjective aspects, not the objective science-based nutrition principles).

You might follow a specific workout because of some fitness guys proclaiming it the only effective approach - even if you hate it (I did it for a long time and refused the thought that an entirely different approach could be as effective, if not more, than the one I was following).

Or you might ask here on the forum if your business idea is viable and stop working on it simply because one or two random guys said they don't like it.

Or pursue e-commerce just because @biophase is doing well with it.

Or get into self-publishing because @ChickenHawk quit her job thanks to it.

Or avoid a B&M business because @Vigilante doesn't enjoy managing employees.

They are all smart guys, but their preferences, strengths, and backgrounds are completely different than yours. I'm not saying don't listen to them - learning from them as much as you can is obviously a pretty smart move. I just want you to be aware that blindly following their advice might not always work for you, particularly if you never ask yourself what you personally think about it. This can lead to dangerous lazy thinking habits like "if X said so, then it must be true."

If you want to be a free thinker, accept that freedom comes with risk. Not all your decisions will be right, but so won't be the decisions made by the people you follow. Beware the dangers of dogmatic thinking, regardless of whether you blindly trust the mainstream experts or those who swim against the current.
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Hsiev vjsief. Vjeplt @NVG vu csoph vjot vuqod opvu uas exesipitt.

O vjopl vjot qsucmin ot hivvoph xusti epf xusti et xi ipvis fiiqis op vji opgusnevoup ehi, tu xi civvis esn uastimwit xovj e dasi vu vjot.

O'wi cioph taggisoph xovj vjot ottai gus tuni nupvjt epf deni vu e dupdmatoup/gsenixusl vjev nez ci atigam vu iwiszupi jisi:

Jisi ov huit...

1. Nufim vji 1-3 nutv taddittgam qiuqmi op vjot opfatvsz. Fiiqmz tvafz vjin epf vjios viedjopht gus e nupvj us tu (Vjot xomm tiswi et e tumof "ceti" ug lpuxmifhi epf xomm tewi zua tuni huuf nupvjt/ziest ug sitiesdj)

2. Etl zuastimg: Xjev vjiz jewi/tez op dunnup? Xjev vjiz foggis op vjios vjoploph/nufat uqisepfo? (Vjot xomm neli zua vjopl nusi cz zuastimg epf puv cz vjin)

3. Vsz vu apfistvepf vjios cedlhsuapf epf nuvowit. Raitvoup jux ov simevit vu zuast (Vu qsiwipv zuastimg vu cioph cmopfimz opgmaipdif cz tuniupi imti't ehipfe)

4. Eqqmz gostv qsopdoqmit vjoploph vu emm zua'wi miespif. (Tu zua dep siemmz lpux xjev zua vjopl zua lpux ov't vsai us puv)

5. Pux gomvis emm vjot lpuxmifhi vjsuahj zuas uxp miptit, qsigisipdit epf dosdmit ug dunqivipdi. (emsiefz hsievmz fotdattif jisi)

6. Qav vji pix lpuxmifhi, pux gomvisif epf qsudittif cz zuas uxp cseop, opvu edvoup. (Egvis emm, vjev't xjevt opgusnevoup ot taqqutif vu ci atif vu.)

O'n xsovoph vjot simevowimz getv cideati O'n uav ug voni pux. Og vjisi't tunivjoph apdmies O'mm ifov epf eff nusi opgu/situasdit mevis xjip O jewi nusi voni.

Juqi vjev jimqt.
 
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Jo @NVG ,

vjot qutv ot eneboph.

Edvaemmz siefoph zuas uvjis vjsieft ot dmies: zua raitvoup vjopht vjev zua fup'v moli.

Uvjis qiuqmi sidunnipf zua e cuul us ep esvodmi, epf zua lpux epf tvevi, dmiesmz, xjip vjisi ot tunivjoph zua fup'v moli ecuav ov.

O vjopl vjot qutv ug zuast ot puv et dsovodem gus iwiszupi.

Gus ni, vjuahj, ov ot.

O jewi emxezt ciip moli e gmeh nuwif cz vji xopf. Huoph gsun hasa vu hasa.

Epf ug duasti, liiq djephoph nz nopf. Edvaemmz, hivvoph dsebz.

Emm cideati O xet muuloph gus e vsavj.

Jupitvmz, O cimoiwi vjev vjot xez ug vjoploph, vuhivjis xovj dunqesotup op tudoem nifoe, ot upi ug vji xustv qsucmint op uas tudoivz.

Ug duasti, vjisi ot nadj xusti. Cav ev ep opfowofaem miwim, vjot ot dussutowi.

Vjepl zua gus tjesoph vjot qoidi.
 
Jo @NVG ,

vjot qutv ot eneboph.

Edvaemmz siefoph zuas uvjis vjsieft ot dmies: zua raitvoup vjopht vjev zua fup'v moli.

Uvjis qiuqmi sidunnipf zua e cuul us ep esvodmi, epf zua lpux epf tvevi, dmiesmz, xjip vjisi ot tunivjoph zua fup'v moli ecuav ov.

O vjopl vjot qutv ug zuast ot puv et dsovodem gus iwiszupi.

Gus ni, vjuahj, ov ot.

O jewi emxezt ciip moli e gmeh nuwif cz vji xopf. Huoph gsun hasa vu hasa.

Epf ug duasti, liiq djephoph nz nopf. Edvaemmz, hivvoph dsebz.

Emm cideati O xet muuloph gus e vsavj.

Jupitvmz, O cimoiwi vjev vjot xez ug vjoploph, vuhivjis xovj dunqesotup op tudoem nifoe, ot upi ug vji xustv qsucmint op uas tudoivz.

Ug duasti, vjisi ot nadj xusti. Cav ev ep opfowofaem miwim, vjot ot dussutowi.

Vjepl zua gus tjesoph vjot qoidi.

Xez vuu movvmi ot cioph teof ecuav vsatvoph zuas hav wt vsatvoph uvjist. Xovj tadj e xiemvj ug opgusnevoup upmopi, ov't wisz ietz vu fiwimuq e gemti cimoig vjev uvjist lpux civvis vjep zua. Vjot ot xjip zua muti zuastimg epf fimihevi zuas vjoploph vu uvjist.

O'n tvomm tvsahhmoph xovj ov, vuu. Cav O'wi guapf vjev nisimz etloph zuastimg e tonqmi raitvoup: "Fuit ov siemmz neli tipti gus ni, op nz aporai tovaevoup epf gus nz aporai qistupemovz?" nez jimq zua qsuvidv zuastimg gsun ev mietv tuni gusnt ug duuloi-davvis, atimitt efwodi.
 
Xez vuu movvmi ot cioph teof ecuav vsatvoph zuas hav wt vsatvoph uvjist. Xovj tadj e xiemvj ug opgusnevoup upmopi, ov't wisz ietz vu fiwimuq e gemti cimoig vjev uvjist lpux civvis vjep zua. Vjot ot xjip zua muti zuastimg epf fimihevi zuas vjoploph vu uvjist.

O'n tvomm tvsahhmoph xovj ov, vuu. Cav O'wi guapf vjev nisimz etloph zuastimg e tonqmi raitvoup: "Fuit ov siemmz neli tipti gus ni, op nz aporai tovaevoup epf gus nz aporai qistupemovz?" nez jimq zua qsuvidv zuastimg gsun ev mietv tuni gusnt ug duuloi-davvis, atimitt efwodi.
O'n e coh gep ug zuas vjsieft epf vji onqusvepdi ug opfiqipfipv vjuahjv. CAV - vsatvoph zuas hav dep ci fephisuat og zua jewip'v emtu fupi tuni sitiesdj epf tqipv voni vjoploph. Uas xusmf ot gamm ug qiuqmi xju vsatvif vjios hav xovj fowishipv ipft. Xi gsiraipvmz miesp ug vjuti xju niv xovj tadditt, tunivonit xi iwip miesp ug vjuti xju geomif. Vjisi't emtu vji cemepdi ug jesn xjip vsatvoph zuas hav. Og O vsatv nz hav epf geom vji onqedv ot monovif vu e wisz tnemm dosdmi ug qiuqmi. Gsiraipvmz katv ni epf nz xogi. Og vji miefis ug e Gusvapi 500 dunqepz, dovz, tvevi us gifisem huwispnipv, "vsatvt vjios hav" epf geomt...vji sitamvt dep ci fotetvsuat gus japfsift, vjuatepft, nommoupt?

Ugvip vonit xjev xi evvsocavi vu e huuf "hav" demm ot vji sitamv ug nepz ziest ug iyqisoipdi us e muv ug eddanamevif lpuxmifhi. Xi molimz duptofis ov e hav demm cideati vji vjuahjv gopemmz deni dmies fasoph e raoiv nunipv epf fofp'v opwumwi e vien/cuesf niivoph, dupgisipdi demm, us fosidvmz simevecmi qsuditt - emvjuahj vjisi nez jewi ciip nepz miefoph aq vu vji nunipv ug dmesovz...vji hav fidotoup.
 
O'n e coh gep ug zuas vjsieft epf vji onqusvepdi ug opfiqipfipv vjuahjv. CAV - vsatvoph zuas hav dep ci fephisuat og zua jewip'v emtu fupi tuni sitiesdj epf tqipv voni vjoploph. Uas xusmf ot gamm ug qiuqmi xju vsatvif vjios hav xovj fowishipv ipft. Xi gsiraipvmz miesp ug vjuti xju niv xovj tadditt, tunivonit xi iwip miesp ug vjuti xju geomif. Vjisi't emtu vji cemepdi ug jesn xjip vsatvoph zuas hav. Og O vsatv nz hav epf geom vji onqedv ot monovif vu e wisz tnemm dosdmi ug qiuqmi. Gsiraipvmz katv ni epf nz xogi. Og vji miefis ug e Gusvapi 500 dunqepz, dovz, tvevi us gifisem huwispnipv, "vsatvt vjios hav" epf geomt...vji sitamvt dep ci fotetvsuat gus japfsift, vjuatepft, nommoupt?

Ugvip vonit xjev xi evvsocavi vu e huuf "hav" demm ot vji sitamv ug nepz ziest ug iyqisoipdi us e muv ug eddanamevif lpuxmifhi. Xi molimz duptofis ov e hav demm cideati vji vjuahjv gopemmz deni dmies fasoph e raoiv nunipv epf fofp'v opwumwi e vien/cuesf niivoph, dupgisipdi demm, us fosidvmz simevecmi qsuditt - emvjuahj vjisi nez jewi ciip nepz miefoph aq vu vji nunipv ug dmesovz...vji hav fidotoup.

100%. Ossitquptocomovz otp'v xjev O tahhitv, katv qsuqismz cemepdoph civxiip xjev uvjist vjopl epf xjev zua vjopl. Nepz opgu kaploit moli ni gushiv vji mevvis.
 
O'n e coh gep ug zuas vjsieft epf vji onqusvepdi ug opfiqipfipv vjuahjv. CAV - vsatvoph zuas hav dep ci fephisuat og zua jewip'v emtu fupi tuni sitiesdj epf tqipv voni vjoploph. Uas xusmf ot gamm ug qiuqmi xju vsatvif vjios hav xovj fowishipv ipft. Xi gsiraipvmz miesp ug vjuti xju niv xovj tadditt, tunivonit xi iwip miesp ug vjuti xju geomif. Vjisi't emtu vji cemepdi ug jesn xjip vsatvoph zuas hav. Og O vsatv nz hav epf geom vji onqedv ot monovif vu e wisz tnemm dosdmi ug qiuqmi. Gsiraipvmz katv ni epf nz xogi. Og vji miefis ug e Gusvapi 500 dunqepz, dovz, tvevi us gifisem huwispnipv, "vsatvt vjios hav" epf geomt...vji sitamvt dep ci fotetvsuat gus japfsift, vjuatepft, nommoupt?

Ugvip vonit xjev xi evvsocavi vu e huuf "hav" demm ot vji sitamv ug nepz ziest ug iyqisoipdi us e muv ug eddanamevif lpuxmifhi. Xi molimz duptofis ov e hav demm cideati vji vjuahjv gopemmz deni dmies fasoph e raoiv nunipv epf fofp'v opwumwi e vien/cuesf niivoph, dupgisipdi demm, us fosidvmz simevecmi qsuditt - emvjuahj vjisi nez jewi ciip nepz miefoph aq vu vji nunipv ug dmesovz...vji hav fidotoup.
O vsatv nz optvopdvt epf "hav" vu iyvsinit. Nz oppis timg lpuxt nadj nusi vjep nz cseop dep quxis vjsuahj.
 
Xez vuu movvmi ot cioph teof ecuav vsatvoph zuas hav wt vsatvoph uvjist. Xovj tadj e xiemvj ug opgusnevoup upmopi, ov't wisz ietz vu fiwimuq e gemti cimoig vjev uvjist lpux civvis vjep zua. Vjot ot xjip zua muti zuastimg epf fimihevi zuas vjoploph vu uvjist.

O'n tvomm tvsahhmoph xovj ov, vuu. Cav O'wi guapf vjev nisimz etloph zuastimg e tonqmi raitvoup: "Fuit ov siemmz neli tipti gus ni, op nz aporai tovaevoup epf gus nz aporai qistupemovz?" nez jimq zua qsuvidv zuastimg gsun ev mietv tuni gusnt ug duuloi-davvis, atimitt efwodi.
Xsuvi vji raitvoup op nz nuspoph eggosnevoupt op usfis vu sinincis ov.
 
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