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SHELTON, THIS COULD BE A DAY THAT TOTALLY CHANGES THE COURSE OF YOUR LIFE FOREVER, FOR THE GOOD.
I am NOT exaggerating.
Or, a could be a day in which a path towards mediocrity, leading towards failure, is established for a lifetime.
I'm not exaggerating about that, either.
An idea was put inside your mind. No newborn baby has this idea inside their mind within minutes of being born, so a human being put this idea into your mind. Some human beings go their whole lives without ever believing in this idea. Perhaps you put it there yourself. Perhaps somebody else put it there.
Most likely the idea came from other people. These people might have come right out and said exactly what the idea is.
The people involved might have included your aunt and uncle. Perhaps other relatives.
Most likely teachers, administrators, and counselors at your high school. Perhaps friends. Perhaps neighbors. Perhaps ministers.
Perhaps some of your favorite music artists, in public service announcements.
Perhaps there were some books, web sites, and videos with this idea.
They probably all agreed on exactly the same idea.
Perhaps they did not come right out to say it. Perhaps they only implied it. And perhaps you picked up exactly what they hoped you would figure out, from their hints, from their suggestions and implications.
Perhaps nobody else told you anything at all about this idea, but you invented it yourself.
The idea is:
IF you do well enough at high school, playing the role of good student as the script of high school tells you do to,
THEN when you need a job, it will be straightforward, obvious, easy, and fast for you to get a good enough job.
HOWEVER
you have already had a couple of basic jobs, and completed high school, and took another course about web development, AND NOW YOU CAN'T GET A BASIC JOB.
I'm assuming that your uncle might have hired you as janitor as a family favor, but that you actually did do the work of cleaning toilets, vacuuming carpets, taking out the trash, etc.
It's a job I've done a few times myself.
If you didn't actually clean up or stack the chairs and tables, etc., then it wasn't a real job and shouldn't be on your resme.
So, the IF-THEN rule that you expected would describe the way life has to work, will work, must work, definitely always does work for those who strive and follow the rules,
IS BROKEN.
Now there are several possible reasons why.
MJ WROTE A BOOK ABOUT IT called "Unscripted." You can download the first few chapters for free and then buy the rest. I don't get any money or favors from him if you do this, and I don't lose anything if you don't get or read his book.
The IF-THEN rule and script about life you were given IS ALREADY FAILING YOU.
The question is what to do about that fact.
MJ's answer, and I totally agree with him, is that YOU SHOULD IDENTIFY WHICH PARTS OF THE SCRIPT ARE NOT TRUE, AND STOP LIVING BY THOSE BELIEFS AND RULES EVEN ONE MORE DAY.
Are you courageous enough to find out whether that MIGHT actually be the truth?
Or will you continue to whine, complain, insist on what's due to you, and try to control the employers that you actually can't control, by doing more of what already has failed to work for you?
Let's look at one more part of this from me personally.
I am someone who has relevant paid work experience in software, that gives me excellent insight into giving advice about how to break into a software career.
I HAVE BEEN PAID TO WRITE CODE, AT TAKE-HOME RATES UP TO $54/HOUR, ALMOST CERTAINLY FOR MORE YEARS THAN YOU HAVE BEEN ALIVE ON THIS PLANET.
In addition, I recommended THE WORLD'S MOST ACCLAIMED AND HIGHLY RATED AND BEST SELLING JOB HUNTING BOOK.
Which was annually updated by its author from when he began his research, before I was born, until he died last year.
Almost every public library in the U.S. has copies of this book you can read FOR FREE.
There are public libraries in New York City. At least, they pretended there was a big building full of books you could go in and use for free, in that cool movie about the ghosts. I always thought that part about the building with the books was true, only the part about the ghosts was made up. Was the building with the books just a fantasy too? They don't have that any more in NYC?
And you have NOT said,
THANK YOU FOR OFFERING ME FREE MENTORING BASED ON YOUR SUCCEEDING AT EXACTLY WHAT I HOPE TO LEARN HOW TO START.
Nor did you say, I GOT THAT BOOK AND READ THE FIRST CHAPTER ALREADY.
Instead, you complained and whined about everybody and everything involved in the situation EXCEPT,
WHAT COULD YOU DO NOW TO LEARN HOW TO MAKE BETTER CHOICES AND ACTIONS?
So, this is a day that will change your life powerfully one way or another.
By whether you take this opportunity to learn, from MJ, from Bolles, from myself, and from many others who are willing to teach THOSE WHO ARE READY TO LEARN.
Or by whether you show that you want to somehow punish the world for misunderstandings that actually, only cause suffering to YOU.
I am NOT exaggerating.
Or, a could be a day in which a path towards mediocrity, leading towards failure, is established for a lifetime.
I'm not exaggerating about that, either.
An idea was put inside your mind. No newborn baby has this idea inside their mind within minutes of being born, so a human being put this idea into your mind. Some human beings go their whole lives without ever believing in this idea. Perhaps you put it there yourself. Perhaps somebody else put it there.
Most likely the idea came from other people. These people might have come right out and said exactly what the idea is.
The people involved might have included your aunt and uncle. Perhaps other relatives.
Most likely teachers, administrators, and counselors at your high school. Perhaps friends. Perhaps neighbors. Perhaps ministers.
Perhaps some of your favorite music artists, in public service announcements.
Perhaps there were some books, web sites, and videos with this idea.
They probably all agreed on exactly the same idea.
Perhaps they did not come right out to say it. Perhaps they only implied it. And perhaps you picked up exactly what they hoped you would figure out, from their hints, from their suggestions and implications.
Perhaps nobody else told you anything at all about this idea, but you invented it yourself.
The idea is:
IF you do well enough at high school, playing the role of good student as the script of high school tells you do to,
THEN when you need a job, it will be straightforward, obvious, easy, and fast for you to get a good enough job.
HOWEVER
you have already had a couple of basic jobs, and completed high school, and took another course about web development, AND NOW YOU CAN'T GET A BASIC JOB.
I'm assuming that your uncle might have hired you as janitor as a family favor, but that you actually did do the work of cleaning toilets, vacuuming carpets, taking out the trash, etc.
It's a job I've done a few times myself.
If you didn't actually clean up or stack the chairs and tables, etc., then it wasn't a real job and shouldn't be on your resme.
So, the IF-THEN rule that you expected would describe the way life has to work, will work, must work, definitely always does work for those who strive and follow the rules,
IS BROKEN.
Now there are several possible reasons why.
- Nobody actually meant to give you this rule. You totally misunderstood, or you made it up yourself in your confusion. I think that's unlikely. I think this IF-THEN rule is EXACTLY what almost everyone in your life so far has insisted that you must believe.
- The people who gave you this rule ARE WRONG AND THEY DON'T KNOW THAT THEY ARE WRONG. The blind are leading the blind. Succeeding at high school is actually NOT necessary & sufficient to get a good enough job right away whenever you want one, BUT the people at the high school, family, church, neighborhood etc. all sincerely did believe that's how life works. So sorry about the pain and suffering for you, but they meant well.
- The people who gave you this rule ARE WRONG AND THEY LIED TO YOU BY CHOICE. The school administrators got a dollar amount per student per day from the government, they did NOT prepare you to get a job, they knew this might happen to you, and THEY DIDN'T CARE about how much hurt and suffering you'd have from believing in a lie.
- The people at Target, Walgreens, Macys etc are ALL WRONG AND MUST BE PUNISHED because the IF-THEN rule actually does work unless there are awful employers who MUST BE PUNISHED for not hiring you. The problem is that you are powerless to punish them.
- You are not working hard enough at the complete set of job hunting tools that the school actually DID provide, so that it's all your own damn fault; a thousand resumes failed but resume #1,001 will succeed and then you'll see that the school really was right, and you just have to work harder at life.
MJ WROTE A BOOK ABOUT IT called "Unscripted." You can download the first few chapters for free and then buy the rest. I don't get any money or favors from him if you do this, and I don't lose anything if you don't get or read his book.
The IF-THEN rule and script about life you were given IS ALREADY FAILING YOU.
The question is what to do about that fact.
MJ's answer, and I totally agree with him, is that YOU SHOULD IDENTIFY WHICH PARTS OF THE SCRIPT ARE NOT TRUE, AND STOP LIVING BY THOSE BELIEFS AND RULES EVEN ONE MORE DAY.
Are you courageous enough to find out whether that MIGHT actually be the truth?
Or will you continue to whine, complain, insist on what's due to you, and try to control the employers that you actually can't control, by doing more of what already has failed to work for you?
Let's look at one more part of this from me personally.
I am someone who has relevant paid work experience in software, that gives me excellent insight into giving advice about how to break into a software career.
I HAVE BEEN PAID TO WRITE CODE, AT TAKE-HOME RATES UP TO $54/HOUR, ALMOST CERTAINLY FOR MORE YEARS THAN YOU HAVE BEEN ALIVE ON THIS PLANET.
I offered you FREE mentoring.
In addition, I recommended THE WORLD'S MOST ACCLAIMED AND HIGHLY RATED AND BEST SELLING JOB HUNTING BOOK.
Which was annually updated by its author from when he began his research, before I was born, until he died last year.
Almost every public library in the U.S. has copies of this book you can read FOR FREE.
There are public libraries in New York City. At least, they pretended there was a big building full of books you could go in and use for free, in that cool movie about the ghosts. I always thought that part about the building with the books was true, only the part about the ghosts was made up. Was the building with the books just a fantasy too? They don't have that any more in NYC?
And you have NOT said,
THANK YOU FOR OFFERING ME FREE MENTORING BASED ON YOUR SUCCEEDING AT EXACTLY WHAT I HOPE TO LEARN HOW TO START.
Nor did you say, I GOT THAT BOOK AND READ THE FIRST CHAPTER ALREADY.
Instead, you complained and whined about everybody and everything involved in the situation EXCEPT,
WHAT COULD YOU DO NOW TO LEARN HOW TO MAKE BETTER CHOICES AND ACTIONS?
So, this is a day that will change your life powerfully one way or another.
By whether you take this opportunity to learn, from MJ, from Bolles, from myself, and from many others who are willing to teach THOSE WHO ARE READY TO LEARN.
Or by whether you show that you want to somehow punish the world for misunderstandings that actually, only cause suffering to YOU.
Choose wisely!
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