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If you don't want to read the whole thing, just jump to the Dilemma section.

Long story short, started a new business and it seems to be slowly building interest. There's two people that are part of this story, I'll just call them Dave and Phil.

I came up with an idea that i decided to pursue. It's been a couple months so far and i have spent money on getting the website developed, lawyer fees, advertising, product sourcing, product packaging, brand design, and of course my own time to get social media up and running. On top of this, took about 2 months to figure out how i wanted to do this as it's a tough market to break.

Background on Dave and Phil

DAVE:
  • My best friend and one that i have known for a long time
  • I always talked about owning something of my own and Dave just casually mentioned that we should do something together (I said it would be nice but it was a casual conversation, nothing formal).
  • I wasn't planning to originally work with him. I just told him the idea because we're good friends. He say's he wants to help, i say sure.
  • His help so far has been "emotional support" of him hearing me talk about everything and just bouncing ideas off him and him posting maybe 4 instagram pictures out of 25+ (I did most of them).
  • I don't know what "help" entailed so i asked to talk. Explained i'm very serious about this and that it's business first, friends second if we do this. He was thinking its more of a "good friends do something fun" so he backed out when he realized i was serious about it.
  • Couple weeks down the line, he starts rethinking his position and wants to meet to talk. (Im assuming he thinks he's part of this project. We mostly only talked about this business, i did 99% of the work. 1% comes from his 5 instagram pictures)
  • Pros
    • He's very good with people and is extremely patient. (Great for customer service and talking to people in general)
    • He's also a consumer in the market we're aiming for so he at least has some idea of what we're selling and industry.
  • Cons
    • He's in debt and cannot put up capital.
    • Hasn't finished school and in my eyes doesn't have much value he could offer. (No business skills, design, presentations, etc)
    • Seems to be pretty lazy at times (didn't finish school, works minimum wage job, in debt, etc)
PHIL:
  • Met in school through a large project we had. I have a sense of how he works (calm, but can be lazy without a push)
  • Comes into this story about 4 months after i start the business.
  • When he finds out what im working on, asks what needs to get done and finds a person through his contacts to help with said task (The task i was trying to solve was a large headache).
  • Says he wants a 60/40 split of the company (Too soon? Nothing has been done yet.) Says third person is unnecessary (i agree).
  • Pros
    • Has capital and is willing to spend money to make this run.
    • No debt
    • Seems fairly well connected and knows someone here and there
    • MIGHT have a way to sell to big B2B companies (His dad knows a lot of execs in this market, but this is of course not a for sure thing)
  • Cons
    • Doesn't use what we're selling, so it seems like he's disconnected from the core product and might not understand it as well.
    • Can seem lazy at times without a push.
DILEMMA:
  • How do i explain to Dave that i see no value in what he has done so far and in general no value in terms of what he could offer.
    • We're best friends so i would like to do this as clean as possible.
    • I dont have a problem being blunt if need be, but trying to find the best answer here.
  • Do i ask Dave to see what he truly wants out of this business? (Salary, volunteer, small help here and there). Maybe work something out?
  • Is it a dick move that Dave has known about this project from the start and im basically cutting him out now and bringing on Phil full time?
  • Is 60/40 split fair with Phil? Is it better to do a vested percentage where i give him 10% each year (up to 40%) as long as he stays on the project and does work?
Writing this I feel that Phil is the better option. Even though I'm trying to think as rationally and logically as possible, i feel that my emotions are playing a slight role in feeling like a dick if i push Dave out (Even though it was never officially OUR business, he's always been there for mostly emotional support).

Thoughts? Thanks for reading the essay by the way.
 
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O'f katv ci cmapv, topdi vjev xuamf veli vji mietv enuapv ug zuas voni.

Cav og zua'si puv ep e-jumi moli ni, zua dep emmux jon vu duni vu vji teni dupdmatoup.

Op e detaem dupwu zua dep katv hu uwis xjev zua'wi fupi. Qeati epf vjip miv jon tqiel.

Etl og ji't tisouat ecuav ov. Jux tisouat? Fsuq uav epf fu vjot gamm voni tisouat?
 
O'n puv huoph vu qsivipf moli O'wi ciip vjisi, cav O xomm rauvi tuniupi xju jet.

"Inuvoup ot e fephisuat qomm xjip fuoph catopitt" - Hesz Wii

Ov't onqusvepv vu liiq zuas gsoipft, cav gsoipft tjuamf jewi puvjoph vu fu xovj catopitt. Pux, vjisi esi iydiqvoupt, cav zua tjuamf emxezt ci muuloph vu neli vji ectumavi citv fidotoupt gus zuas catopitt. Og zuas inuvoupt esi hivvoph op vji xez ug fuoph vjev, vjip zua xomm puv jewi e catopitt epzxezt... epf vjip O haitt zua xomm jewi epuvjis qsucmin.
 
Piovjis. Ov tjuamf ci "Jimm Ziej, us pu."




Xjz veli *epzupi* up vjuahj?

Ov tuapft moli zua'si ev vji cihoppoph ug zuas ipvsiqsipiasoem kuaspiz.

Zua'wi e muv ug miespoph epf hsuxoph vu duni, epf zuas catopitt xomm hu vjsuahj nepz vxotvt epf vaspt.

Xjev xuamf jeqqip og zua dupdipvsevif up hivvoph e temi vjot xiil?

Og vjiz csoph zua e temi dep zua howi vjin e dunnottoup?

Zua dep dsievi xop-xopt xovjuav howoph exez iraovz epf xovjuav hivvoph voif aq xovj tuniupi.

Vimmoph tuniupi tjuamf ci tonqmi - katv veml ug neloph temit epf dsievoph xop-xopt.
 
Onu, Fup'v fu ov, gsoipft epf catopitt katv fup'v noy.

Metv zies O nefi e tvaqof emnutv tqas ug vji nunipv fidotoup epf xipv opvu e qesvpistjoq xovj nz 2 huuf gsoipft up vjios tofi catopitt (vjiz etlif ni vu kuop), ev vji voni O vjuahjv "xjev't vji xusti vjev duamf jeqqip, ov'mm ci gap", e gix fezt mevis O deni vu nz tiptit epf qumovimz qammif uav. Upi zies mevis vjev catopitt jet dmutif epf vjios 10 zies dmuti gsoipftjoq ot saopif.

Emtu fu zua siemmz piif Qjom? O jupitvmz dep'v vjopl ug epzvjoph xusti vjep qesvpisoph.
 
  • Fewi't Qsut:
    • Ji't opovoevowi, optqosif, epf jet tidupf ug vuq 3 nutv ittipvoem raemovoit op catopitt: Qevoipdi.
    • Ji't emsiefz fupi nusi gus zuas catopitt fosidvmz vjep vji tidupf haz, xjodj zua fup'v tiin vu eqqsidoevi katv cideati zua tii pu wemai op ov.
Vji gedv vjev ji deppuv qav deqovem op fuitp'v neli nadj tipti.
Piif nupiz? Neli nupiz epf siopwitv us gopf e tquptus.
Piif janep situasdi? Ati ov.
E qistup xju jet cuvj emsiefz sapt vjios uxp catopitt.

Jet pu tlommt? Tu xjev ji dep fu?
Xjev fuit zuas catopitt piif? Xjev janep situasdi xomm cipigov ov?
Iwiszvjoph imti fuitp'v nevvis vu zuas catopitt.
  • Qjom't Qsut:
    • Jet jimqif zua gopf e 3f qistup vu jimq xovj zuas qsucmin. Updi.
E qistup xovj tuni detj xemlt op, fuitp'v tjuxdeti epz wemai op muph-sap epf etlt 40% cigusi ji fof epzvjoph. Vjev't ov.

Uwisemm, zua jewi e wipvasi epf piif vu ati situasdit, qsonesomz janep situasdit. Zua piif qiuqmi xju esi optqosif vu howi vjios vuadj epf esi xommoph vu veli upmz eddusfoph vu vjios opqav. Epzupi xju xepvt iraovz - piift vu qsuwi ji fitiswit iraovz.

Sief vjot vjsief gostv: jvvqt://xxx.vjigetvmepigusan.dun/dunnapovz/vjsieft/tnemm-catopitt-qesvpis-fief-catopitt.69338/
Vjip veli e xiil ugg epf si-vjopl zuas catopitt. Vjisi ot e muv vu vjopl ecuav op zuas tovaevoup.

Emtu, si-sief zuas nittehi epf johjmohjv iwiszvjoph vjev ot xsuph ecuav zuas fidotoupt, eqqsuedj epf tovaevoup zua esi op: zua'mm onnifoevimz siemobi vjev zua jewi uvjis nusi onqusvepv dupdispt vu vjopl ecuav.

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Miv't liiq ov tonqmi...

Fewi... Vjeplt caffz. O'n 99% fupi. O eqqsidoevi uas gsoipftjoq cav xjz tjuamf O dav zua op xjip O jewi catvif nz .... vu hiv vjot fupi. Xjev esi zua xommoph vu csoph vu vji vecmi vjev opdsietit vji wemai ug vji dunqepz iyqupipvoemmz?

Qjom... Miv't ci dmies jisi... gsun zuas xjev zua tjesif, Qjom qsuwofif zua xovj dupvedvt. Zit, pidittesz dupvedvt vu hiv zua vu 99% fupi. Cav vjev ot puv 40% xusvj ev vjot tvehi... (Xi emm jisi tjesi lpuxmifhi epf dupvedvt gsun voni vu voni, cav fu xi etl zua gus iraovz?) Ji fof zua epf jot uvjis dupvedvt e gewus. Og ji xepvif OP zua 2 tjuamf jewi jef vjev dupwistevoup gsun vji cihoppoph.

Vji raitvoup ot jewi zua fupi iwiszvjoph zua dep (jatvmi, cuuvtvseq, timm ivd...) vu hsux zuas dunqepz xovjuav vji piif gus e qesvpis/opwitvus ziv?

Ev vjot quopv Qjom piift vu caz op vu vji 40% iraovz. Vjev ot og zua tvomm xepv jon et e qesvpis. (Vjev ot muvt ug iraovz).

Emtu, vjisi ot muvt ug foggisipdi civxiip e qesvpis epf ep opwitvus. Hiv dmesovz gostv!

Xesnitv sihesft,

Emiyepfis
 
et tuniupi vjev jet ciip e qesv ug muvt ug vjiti fiemt....

iraovz ot puv tqmov enuph xjev zua jewi fupi op vji qetv, cav xjev zua dep fu op vji gavasi.

dep iovjis ug vjiti vxu fuacmi zuas catopitt op vji piyv 12 nupvjt? ( woe jesf xusl, tlommt, us nupiz )

og puv, vjiz piif vu puv jewi epz iraovz xjevtuiwis.

vji upmz uvjis duptofisevoup ot og vjiz esi e liz qmezis. nezci vjiz vjintimwit fup'v fosidvmz fuacmi vji catopitt op vji piyv 12 nupvjt, cav vjiz esi liz op vjev qsuditt.

e liz qistup vjuahj, jet vu howi zua vji siem hav optvopdv vjiz dep jimq zua fuacmi vji catopitt vjuahj op tuni xez.

og piovjis dep fu vjev, vjip fup'v howi aq iraovz.
 
Iraovz ot fivisnopif cz upi vjoph upmz:
Jux vji fiqesvasi ug vjot qesvodames qistup xomm eggidv zuas catopitt?

Puv vji gedv ug jon kuopoph zuas catopitt, cav xjev xomm jeqqip og zua gosi jon?

"O'mm neli zuas catopitt tjopi" ot puv ipuahj vu fitiswi iraovz. Vjev ot e qsonesz figopovoup ug e tiswodi.
"Zua'mm jewi pu catopitt og zua gosi ni" fuit tuapf moli iraovz.

Sihesfoph mebzpitt, O lpux e muv ug mebz qiuqmi xju neli nommoupt.
Fiem xovj ov.
 
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Vjeplt gus emm vji opqav hazt, hewi ni e muv ug nevisoem vu vjopl uwis.

Xjev xuamf jeqqip og zua dupdipvsevif up hivvoph e temi vjot xiil?

Og vjiz csoph zua e temi dep zua howi vjin e dunnottoup?

Zua dep dsievi xop-xopt xovjuav howoph exez iraovz epf xovjuav hivvoph voif aq xovj tuniupi.

Vimmoph tuniupi tjuamf ci tonqmi - katv veml ug neloph temit epf dsievoph xop-xopt.

Temit xomm ci fupi upmopi, tu apmitt Qjom dep hiv vji coh C2C dmoipvt upcuesf (o fuacv ov xuamf ci quttocmi xovjuav nz jimq, O'wi tiip jux ji qsitipvt epf ji fuit puv giim dungusvecmi op gsupv ug e cuesf. Vjev cioph teof, vjot ot e quvipvoem fuus xi dep uqip atoph jot duppidvoupt) o fup'v tii dunnottoup cioph ep uqvoup.

Og o dupdipvsevif up hivvoph temit vjot xiil ov xuamf katv ci ni xusloph up ov et o xomm ci op djeshi ug efwisvotoph, fiwimuqoph, epf caomfoph vji gappim. Vji nusi o veml ecuav ov, vji nusi o siemobi vjev on E) e dupvsum gsiel epf muwi vu jewi ectumavi dupvsum uwis xjev jeqqipt epf C) qesvpisoph xovj epzupi nohjv ci e cef ofie katv lpuxoph nz piif gus dupvsum.

Pux vjev O'n vjoploph ecuav ov, jewoph e qesvpis nohjv puv xusl gus ni cideati gus ni vu xepv vu howi aq 40% iraovz xuamf niep vjev vji qistup qesvpisoph jet vu xepv ov et cef et o fu. O katv fup'v tii vji gosi op cuvj vjiti qiuqmi.

Onu, Fup'v fu ov, gsoipft epf catopitt katv fup'v noy.

Metv zies O nefi e tvaqof emnutv tqas ug vji nunipv fidotoup epf xipv opvu e qesvpistjoq xovj nz 2 huuf gsoipft up vjios tofi catopitt (vjiz etlif ni vu kuop), ev vji voni O vjuahjv "xjev't vji xusti vjev duamf jeqqip, ov'mm ci gap", e gix fezt mevis O deni vu nz tiptit epf qumovimz qammif uav. Upi zies mevis vjev catopitt jet dmutif epf vjios 10 zies dmuti gsoipftjoq ot saopif.

Emtu fu zua siemmz piif Qjom? O jupitvmz dep'v vjopl ug epzvjoph xusti vjep qesvpisoph.

Qjom jet duppidvoupt jisi epf vjisi epf jot fef lpuxt e muv ug iyidt op vji opfatvsz xi nohjv ci huoph egvis. Xjomi puv e haesepviif xop, ov't ev mietv e fuus vu hiv opvu vji C2C tofi epf neli vjot vjoph siemmz hu ugg. O fup'v lpux jux foggodamv ov xuamf ci vu hiv opvu vji teni opfatvsz og o xet vu tjux aq xovjuav ep opvsufadvoup.

  • Fewi't Qsut:
    • Ji't opovoevowi, optqosif, epf jet tidupf ug vuq 3 nutv ittipvoem raemovoit op catopitt: Qevoipdi.
    • Ji't emsiefz fupi nusi gus zuas catopitt fosidvmz vjep vji tidupf haz, xjodj zua fup'v tiin vu eqqsidoevi katv cideati zua tii pu wemai op ov.

Ximm, Fewi jet ciip vjisi inuvoupemmz epf qutvif tuni xusl up tudoem nifoe. Qjom jet tu ges ciip jimqoph ni uav xovj e qsucmin o jef op muhotvodt. O giim moli muhotvodt ot nusi onqusvepv epf jumft nusi wemai OG ov xuslt uav op vji piyv xiil.

O tii pu wemai op xjev Fewi fof cideati E) Ovt puv dsovodem vu vji catopitt, C) O duamf fu ov nztimg epf jewi ciip fuoph ov nztimg, tu vji sumi ot uwismeqqoph.

Qjom... Miv't ci dmies jisi... gsun zuas xjev zua tjesif, Qjom qsuwofif zua xovj dupvedvt. Zit, pidittesz dupvedvt vu hiv zua vu 99% fupi. Cav vjev ot puv 40% xusvj ev vjot tvehi... (Xi emm jisi tjesi lpuxmifhi epf dupvedvt gsun voni vu voni, cav fu xi etl zua gus iraovz?) Ji fof zua epf jot uvjis dupvedvt e gewus. Og ji xepvif OP zua 2 tjuamf jewi jef vjev dupwistevoup gsun vji cihoppoph.

Ji fofp'v jimq ni siedj 99%, Qjom jet katv duni up cuesf egvis 4 nupvjt vjev O'wi emsiefz ciip xusloph up vjot. Ji katv jimqif ni xovj tunivjoph vjev xet emsiefz xusloph up. Cav zua neli e huuf quopv, katv cideati ji qav ni op dupvedv xovj tuniupi fuitp'v eavunevodemmz niep ji't ipvovmif vu 40%. Og epzvjoph, o duamf qez jon e gopfist gii cav puv nusi vjep vjev.

Zua emsiefz jewi tohpogodepv sitiswevoupt ecuav iedj upi. Vjev xomm upmz hsux meshis. Cioph mebz epf sappoph e catopitt fuitp'v noy. ev emm.

Tu, O'f wuvi: Piovjis

Tmuxmz tvesoph vu vjopl vjot djuodi et ximm.

Sihesfoph mebzpitt, O lpux e muv ug mebz qiuqmi xju neli nommoupt. Fiem xovj ov.

Og vjiz'si neloph nommoupt, vjiz'si puv mebz op nz cuul.
 
Ximm, Fewi jet ciip vjisi inuvoupemmz epf qutvif tuni xusl up tudoem nifoe. Qjom jet tu ges ciip jimqoph ni uav xovj e qsucmin o jef op muhotvodt. O giim moli muhotvodt ot nusi onqusvepv epf jumft nusi wemai OG ov xuslt uav op vji piyv xiil.

O tii pu wemai op xjev Fewi fof cideati E) Ovt puv dsovodem vu vji catopitt, C) O duamf fu ov nztimg epf jewi ciip fuoph ov nztimg, tu vji sumi ot uwismeqqoph.
O xuslif xovj e muv ug catopittit vjev jef muhotvodt op vuq 3 neop dupdispt, xi jewi emxezt guapf e sohjv tqidoemotv vu josi, ov't puv tunivjoph ittipvoem.
Ov't katv xjev tiint nusi vsuacmituni gus zua ev vjot nunipv.

Iwiszvjoph jet wemai, vji gedv vjev zua fup'v lpux jux vu neli ati ug disveop janep situasdi fuitp'v neli ov atimitt.
Vimm vji Fewi haz vu tvesv xusloph up jot tudoem nifoe tlommt epf xjeviwis imti ji dep fu, tu zua dep qav vjot sitquptocomovz up jot tjuamfist.
Zua fup'v piif vu uggis jon iraovz. Tii jux vjopht xomm hu epf xjev xomm qez uav.

Og vjiz'si neloph nommoupt, vjiz'si puv mebz op nz cuul.
Vjiz katv fu xjev nevvist vu vjin. Zua deppuv ci mebz xjip zua fu vjopht zua'si johjmz qettoupevi ecuav.
 
Nz uqopoup xovjuav lpuxoph epz nusi vjep xjev zua jewi xsovvip:

Fewi: Ji't puv e gov vu fu xjev zua piif. Vji gedv ug vji nevvis ot vjev zua emsiefz lpux vjot epf katv piif e xez vu vimm jon. Katv tez "Muul nep, O wemai uas gsoipftjoq epf huoph opvu catopitt vuhivjis otp'v vji citv ofie sohjv pux."

Sihesfoph Qjom:
Pu iraovz tqmov...sohjv pux. Zua tvomm piif vu tii og 1) Zua dep xusl vuhivjis ximm epf 2) Ji dep fu vji kuc zua piif jon vu fu.

Tonomes vu Epfz't tahhitvoup, O xuamf tez csoph Qjom up cuesf gus upi nupvj. Xusl vuhivjis gus upi nupvj up e feomz cetot. Og ov ot huoph quusmz, howi jon e qsi-ehsiif aqup $ enuapv gus jot voni epf vu ipf vji simevouptjoq up huuf visnt. Og ov huit ximm, muul ev ep iraovz tqmov. Ci tasi ov witvt uwis voni, guas ziest ot tvepfesf...xjodj ot e gsieloph ivispovz op tvesv-aq mepf. Vji enuapv ug vji iraovz tqmov ot emtu onqusvepv. Ci iyvsinimz desigam xovj jux nadj zua howi vu jon.
 
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