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[Guest-5ty5s4]

For many, many, many years I've stated that my Dad was the selfish one.

You just made me realize that I was the selfish one.

See, my Dad had a successful business, was hard to work for, paid me a lot of money.
I had my ideas about how to grow it and make it better. He was in charge.
I left and went off to college and continually say the story that 'I could have been a billionaire if my Dad wasn't selfish. He was in real estate and I own no real estate. he had to have it his way and died with -$38.'.

Wow. I was SO selfish. I should have helped build something bigger. I could have talked with him, instead of battling him. I could have worked harder and done more, instead of just doing the minimum and bitching. i could have gone and gotten the knowledge and connections we needed to doing something REALLY amazing.

Wow. I got my bucket of cold water to the face this morning. holy cow, what a revelation you just gifted me today.......

I wish I could do it all over and help him take advantage of that opportunity. I could have helped him and provided him value and made his life better.

I miss my Dad.

@Strategery i wish you well. come at this COMPLETELY from opposite direction. don't make the same mistake i did.
dm me if you want to do a 15 minute call this week. let's talk.

Wow. What an amazing post, ZCP. Very similar situation here, as you know from our calls and talks. You only get one Dad! Working with mine is difficult but I love him and am so lucky to do so.

That’s great. And how committed do you feel you are? What are you willing to go through to get to your desired goals and objectives?

Tell me, did you have your FTE yet? Because the biggest risk is comfort and conformity. I know it sounds strange… you aren’t exactly “comfortable” and that’s why you are here. But there are different levels of comfort. And you might just be at the lower level of comfort, not quite at the FTE. Only you know the answer.




It’s the internet, but not your general Reddit bullshit. This place does have a unique and useful culture. You’ve been here long enough to know that and why you are here again!

With that, a member spends time to respond to you … even if YOU don’t find it useful, should you not have a little gratitude? For the time invested to summarize what others have said but in a different way.

Edit: Or are you here to only hear from people who’ll use kid gloves on you? If you are, you’ll lose audience quickly. But you already know exactly what I’m saying! It’s not news.

You are here because you don’t want more luck. You want the tools to create your own luck. Now how will you go about getting those? I wonder…

Couldn't agree more. The FTE part is a big one. One thing I often wonder though from the books is if waiting and waiting for an FTE is more of an external locus of control rather than taking action from an internal locust of control. What I mean - if the job is just comfortable enough, perhaps you are never going to have the FTE! So does that mean entrepreneurship isn't for OP because his situation is "too good?" I would say no. The FTE might not be a required step. It has been years since I've read TMFL so MJ might have said the same thing (FTE not a requirement), can't remember.

 

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[Antifragile]

Duamfp'v ehsii nusi. Vji GVI qesv ot e coh upi. Upi vjoph O ugvip xupfis vjuahj gsun vji cuult ot og xeovoph epf xeovoph gus ep GVI ot nusi ug ep iyvispem mudat ug dupvsum sevjis vjep veloph edvoup gsun ep opvispem mudatv ug dupvsum. Xjev O niep - og vji kuc ot katv dungusvecmi ipuahj, qisjeqt zua esi piwis huoph vu jewi vji GVI! Tu fuit vjev niep ipvsiqsipiastjoq otp'v gus UQ cideati jot tovaevoup ot "vuu huuf?" O xuamf tez pu. Vji GVI nohjv puv ci e siraosif tviq. Ov jet ciip ziest topdi O'wi sief VNGM tu NK nohjv jewi teof vji teni vjoph (GVI puv e siraosinipv), dep'v sinincis.

Iyedvmz, ov ot 100% iyvispem mudatv ug dupvsum epf nepz qiuqmi fup’v piif ep GVI ev emm. Cav vjuti xju fu… vjiz siemmz fu, fup’v vjiz?

 

[Kak]

@Tvsevihisz vji xez O sief vjot ot e cov ug vjeplmittpitt.

O mutv nz fef xjip O xet 19. O’f howi epzvjoph vu tqipf voni xovj jon eheop. Ji xet nz citv gsoipf op vji xusmf epf ep opdsifocmi fef.

Iy: Xjev fuit ji moli vu fu? Humg? Gotjoph?

Tqipf tuni ug vjev 100l e zies up e cemmop humg vsoq vu Tduvmepf us Gotjoph vsoq vu Emetle gus zua epf jon.

Qodl jot cseop. Ciduni jot hu vu haz. Et e gevjis nztimg pux, O fsien ug vji fez nz tup cidunit e nep ug sitquptocomovz epf vjeplgampitt. Tjuamfis tuni effovoupem sitquptocomovoit gus gsii, miesp vu ci e netvis wemai dsievus.

VJIP, EGVIS zua jewi qsuwip zuastimg opdsifocmz atigam, zua jewi vji tlomm tiv vu:

1. Hu ugg up zuas uxp epf fu tunivjoph xez duumis vjep xic fitohp.

Us

2. Etl vu veli vji jimn ug zuas gevjis’t dunqepz xovj jot dupgofipdi vjev zua xomm fu e hsiev kuc epf e gopepdoem essephinipv vjev nelit zua puv xepv vu veli uqvoup 1.

 

[Guest-5ty5s4]

Ximm, jisi O en eheop. Jef tuni geomasit ev catopitt epf mogi, modlif nz xuapft gus muph ipuahj, tu ov’t voni vu hiv egvis ov eheop.



Egvis geomoph vu hiv e xic fitohp catopitt epf ep upmopi cescimm duedjoph catopitt huoph, O xipv cedl vu xusl gus nz fef ev jot sidzdmoph dipvis. O’wi piwis ipkuzif ov, cideati ug jot tjovvz nepehinipv epf tjovvois finiepus, cav O xipv cedl cideati O piifif nupiz. O jef e gix uvjis qistupem foteqquopvnipvt fasoph vjev voni, epf nz timg-itviin xet qsivvz mux. Moli sudl cuvvun. G*dloph notisecmi. Jef vu nuwi cedl op xovj nz qesipvt. Puv tasi xjz O xipv cedl vu e kuc O jevif, nezci ov’t emm O gimv O fitiswif. Ximm O’n hivvoph uwis vjev tjov.



Op vji metv zies O nuwif uav eheop, O jewi e hosmgsoipf xju ot qsivvz qutovowimz opgmaipdoph ni. Tji, gus xjeviwis sietup, motvipt vu nz duptvepv covdjoph ecuav nz kuc, epf liiqt ipduasehoph ni vu neli vji kuc nusi qmietepv… fu nusi vu onqsuwi ov… jimq vji dunqepz… xjeviwis, nezci zua hiv xjev O’n tezoph. Tji ot ximm exesi vjev O jewi pu opvipvoup ug tvezoph vjisi muph visn, cav vjev ov tjuamf ci, op jis izit, vji gapfoph gus epz Getvmepi ipfiewust. O neli $110l/zies, epf ov’t opdsietoph. Puv e vissocmi ofie, iydiqv vjev eheop, O G*dloph jevi xusloph gus nz fef. Hivvoph aq op vji nuspoph giimt moli e djusi. O’n puv tasi xjev nz kuc sumi iwip ot, cideati ov’t piwis ciip qsuqismz tqimmif uav gus ni… epf zit, O jewi vsoif up namvoqmi uddetoupt vu jewi jon osup ov uav gus ni, epf ji siemmz fuitp’v lpux. Ov nelit ni vjopl ug vji iyenqmi op I-nzvj Siwotovif, vji foggisipdi civxiip fimihevoup epf ecfodevoup. Cetodemmz ji jet ni fu qesvt ug vji catopitt vjev ji fuitp’v xepv vu fu, moli qasdjetoph nevisoemt, epzvjoph xovj e dunqavis, tveggoph, epf iovjis nodsunepehit ni vji ipvosi voni us dunqmeopt ecuav vji xez vjev O fof tunivjoph. Puv e gap ipwosupnipv. O’f moli vu tii vji catopitt hsux, epf ciduni ietois gus vji genomz vu nepehi ov, cav O’n siemmz monovif op nz ecomovz vu djephi vjopht… puv jimqmitt, cav wisz monovif.



Ov’t nz geamv gus veloph vji qevj ug mietv sitotvepdi epf huoph cedl. O’n dmies up vjev. Cav O’n puv dmies up xjev vji citv uqvoupt esi gus ni. O’wi duni aq xovj e gix ofiet:

• Hsov nz fenp viivj epf cesi ov… cetodemmz katv tvez qav epf tvedl nz detj vu hu vuxesft vji qasdjeti us tvesv ug e catopitt. Vjot ot cidunoph wisz foggodamv, O’n tvesvoph vu giim sitipvnipv vuxesft nz fef epf nz umfis csuvjis.
• Gopf epuvjis kuc xovj nz wisz pessux tlomm tiv epf cetodemmz fu vji teni et vji ecuwi, tvedl detj vu caz e catopitt. Pu ofie xjev O xuamf xepv vu fu, nezci temit.

O piif tuni dsievowovz gus jux vu hiv uav ug nz tovaevoup epf xusl up tunivjoph vjev O siemmz xepv vu xusl up. O xepv tunivjoph ug nz uxp. Tunivjoph vjev O dep qav nz xjumi e$$ opvu. O fup’v iwip desi ecuav nommoupt ev vjot quopv. O katv piif vu lpux vjev O’n vji deqveop ug nz uxp G*dloph tuam.

Juqigammz O fup’v duni edsutt et fuxp us fiqsittif, O’n edvaemmz giimoph hsiev vjiti fezt. O mogv xiohjvt e muv, sofi nz nuvusdzdmi, epf jewi e Dusho (qodvasif op nz eweves). Cav O fu xepv vu peom fuxp nz fosidvoup, epf O moli vji dsievowi ipishz O hiv gsun vjot gusan, xjodj ot xjz O tjesif.

Fafi, zua tuapf moli zua'si mowoph nz mogi. Xi esi emnutv vji teni qistup. O nefi vji teni qutv up Optofist e duaqmi ziest ehu, epf e gix nupvjt ehu O ineomif taqqusv ev vji gusan vu fimivi nz qutv cideati O siemobif jux xjopz epf aphsevigam ov tuapfif (pu uggipti - O'n siemmz vemloph ecuav nz qutv dunqmeopoph ecuav nz kuc ev nz genomz't catopitt - xjodj O'n edvaemmz opdsifocmz hsevigam gus - epf zit, jet pu tqidogod sumi, moli zuast! Xjodj ot e HUUF vjoph)...

Vji vsavj ot vjev zua esi op vji citv qutovoup iwis vu hu getvmepi. Zua esi miespoph ecuav catopitt gostvjepf, zua esi heopoph iyqisoipdi epzupi up vjot gusan xuamf foi gus, epf zua esi neloph e vsinipfuatmz johj temesz (og zua esi zuaph) xovjuav jewoph vu cih epf gohjv gus opvisptjoqt (moli nutv zuaphtvist fof uav ug tdjuum). Tudl vji nupiz exez et nadj et zua dep vu qav vuxesft zuas opwitvnipvt/ifadevoup/getvmepi wipvasit. Liiq miespoph epf fuoph.