From what I read in this thread some people are mixing up two different definitions of success and then arrive at dangerous conclusions.
One definition of success is not having to divorce. The other is becoming a fastlane business success.
The two are totally unrelated and the problems with this mix up are twofold.
1. Just because some billionaires say that it's their spouse that is the main factor behind their success, doesn't make it so.
If you really study billionaires, there are two things consistently coming up in every single billionaire's life story: 1) total commitment coming from passion and 2) working their assess of day in day out for decades in a row.
2. A divorce is never good for business, agreed. Does that mean that having a wife (or spouse) makes it more likely to reach fastlane level?
Hardly. The facts are that 99.8 percent (this is almost the exact number to a decile point) of all couples staying together all their lives will never reach the fastlane level. For argument's sake I define fastlane level here as having 10 million dollars. 99.0 percent will never reach 1 million. Around 90 percent will never reach 100,000.
The guys, and it's almost always the guys, that do reach fastlane level and are doing that from a position of marriage have a special type of woman, namely one that is compatible with their dreams and in many cases buys into the dream.
This can have different causes. The ambition was always there in the woman to have such a man or they went through hell together and supported each other to the hilt and then after that have unlimited faith in each other.
At the same time I'm seeing more and more guys reaching fastlane level without ever having been married at all. Think Zuckerberg, Tai Lopez, Tim Ferriss. Even MJ was unmarried when he built limo.com if I remember right. And way back Bill Gates didn't even have time to be married.
So if the billionaire says it's his wife that made him wealthy, understand that it was a special type of woman that was compatible to his dreams. She always was that way or she had become that way. What he also means is that the vast majority of women ARE NOT LIKE THAT.
This also means that marrying a woman or being in a marriage already does not brings you any closer to a fastlane business exit. It's only a small percentage of women that is capable of doing that. All the others have a sidewalk or slowlane mentality and will at their best not be an obstacle or help their guy in a marginal way.
One definition of success is not having to divorce. The other is becoming a fastlane business success.
The two are totally unrelated and the problems with this mix up are twofold.
1. Just because some billionaires say that it's their spouse that is the main factor behind their success, doesn't make it so.
If you really study billionaires, there are two things consistently coming up in every single billionaire's life story: 1) total commitment coming from passion and 2) working their assess of day in day out for decades in a row.
2. A divorce is never good for business, agreed. Does that mean that having a wife (or spouse) makes it more likely to reach fastlane level?
Hardly. The facts are that 99.8 percent (this is almost the exact number to a decile point) of all couples staying together all their lives will never reach the fastlane level. For argument's sake I define fastlane level here as having 10 million dollars. 99.0 percent will never reach 1 million. Around 90 percent will never reach 100,000.
The guys, and it's almost always the guys, that do reach fastlane level and are doing that from a position of marriage have a special type of woman, namely one that is compatible with their dreams and in many cases buys into the dream.
This can have different causes. The ambition was always there in the woman to have such a man or they went through hell together and supported each other to the hilt and then after that have unlimited faith in each other.
At the same time I'm seeing more and more guys reaching fastlane level without ever having been married at all. Think Zuckerberg, Tai Lopez, Tim Ferriss. Even MJ was unmarried when he built limo.com if I remember right. And way back Bill Gates didn't even have time to be married.
So if the billionaire says it's his wife that made him wealthy, understand that it was a special type of woman that was compatible to his dreams. She always was that way or she had become that way. What he also means is that the vast majority of women ARE NOT LIKE THAT.
This also means that marrying a woman or being in a marriage already does not brings you any closer to a fastlane business exit. It's only a small percentage of women that is capable of doing that. All the others have a sidewalk or slowlane mentality and will at their best not be an obstacle or help their guy in a marginal way.
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