I don't know if anyone here has the same 'problem'. I hope there is. Then my post could be helpful.
I'm a person who does 'everything' for free and feels bad for taking money. Stupid, I know. I guess I like the 'oh look at me - I'm such a good person' feeling.
I didn't really see it until this night. Here is what happened.
Customer complained. A lot. Then he handed me money and asked to personally make sure 'everything' goes well for his client. At first I was happy to receive a tip (biggest I got at this job) and then
-> it didn't feel 'right'. I decided to give half of the tip to my colleague (who has an important role in 'getting things done' for the client)
-> I was tempted to give away all of it. Thought of giving away all the money was relieving.
Relieving
Does entrepreneur supposed to think/feel like this?
Possible explanation -
a) 'nice person syndrome' = I'm willing to invest everything into helping the customer (bigger tip would motivate my colleague to do a better job)
b) acting out of fear = I'm trying to get rid of a responsibility. If something goes wrong I can tell myself - see, I've done all I could. I even gave away all the money.
For years I've been helping people for free (for example, I organize events at least once a month) and I cringe to even think about asking money for it. Now I see what hides behind it.
Fear.
And need to feel special.
Goal -
To ‘attach’ money to what I do. Carefully. And see what happens!
P.S. I gave away half of the tip
I'm a person who does 'everything' for free and feels bad for taking money. Stupid, I know. I guess I like the 'oh look at me - I'm such a good person' feeling.
I didn't really see it until this night. Here is what happened.
Customer complained. A lot. Then he handed me money and asked to personally make sure 'everything' goes well for his client. At first I was happy to receive a tip (biggest I got at this job) and then
-> it didn't feel 'right'. I decided to give half of the tip to my colleague (who has an important role in 'getting things done' for the client)
-> I was tempted to give away all of it. Thought of giving away all the money was relieving.
Relieving
Does entrepreneur supposed to think/feel like this?
Possible explanation -
a) 'nice person syndrome' = I'm willing to invest everything into helping the customer (bigger tip would motivate my colleague to do a better job)
b) acting out of fear = I'm trying to get rid of a responsibility. If something goes wrong I can tell myself - see, I've done all I could. I even gave away all the money.
For years I've been helping people for free (for example, I organize events at least once a month) and I cringe to even think about asking money for it. Now I see what hides behind it.
Fear.
And need to feel special.
Goal -
To ‘attach’ money to what I do. Carefully. And see what happens!
P.S. I gave away half of the tip
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