Admitting something here. I have been EXTREMELY hard on myself, for YEARS. Think about my relationship with myself as someone who's dad never told them they were proud of them. (mine did, this is just an example) I always expect more out of myself, which is great for a life of higher achievement and piling stuff on, but man did it drag on me at some point. I always want CONSTANT improvement. I always want to be moving the football down the field. I still have major tendencies in this department.
Make a great deal? The next day, I suck for not arranging a new one.
Have 50% growth in a year? I suck because it wasn't 500%
Bunch of people love my radio show and tell me as much? Nah, my sound sucks and I need to expand my vocabulary.
Work out every day for a week? I suck because I haven't been doing it for 5 years.
Brittany thinks I am the best husband and dad ever, but sometimes I even decide I suck at that and could be better.
You get the picture.
There was something kind of amazing that helped me out through this. On my daily to-do list, I added one more task at the bottom, and it isn't a task at all. It goes like this...
"This is what you set out to do today. If you finish this list, that YOU designed, that means you are on a positive trajectory for constant improvement. Everything is incremental. One step at a time. TODAY IS A WIN. Be proud of what you accomplished today and now go enjoy your family and life."
It is like my past self giving my present self permission to be free the rest of the day, and it is surprisingly amazing. I will always be hard on myself, but this was a big step to freeing myself from my own tyranny.
I hope this helps anyone feeling the same way. I will probably do a radio show on this very thing. What is the point of all of this? To get everything life has to offer... Well, I was blocking, needlessly, a lot of what makes life worth living.
I am blessed. I am 31. I am healthy. I have a beautiful home. I have a fantastic wife and an awesome son. I work on cool projects, and I am by the world's definition, successful...
I HAVE PERMISSION TO ENJOY LIFE!
Make a great deal? The next day, I suck for not arranging a new one.
Have 50% growth in a year? I suck because it wasn't 500%
Bunch of people love my radio show and tell me as much? Nah, my sound sucks and I need to expand my vocabulary.
Work out every day for a week? I suck because I haven't been doing it for 5 years.
Brittany thinks I am the best husband and dad ever, but sometimes I even decide I suck at that and could be better.
You get the picture.
There was something kind of amazing that helped me out through this. On my daily to-do list, I added one more task at the bottom, and it isn't a task at all. It goes like this...
"This is what you set out to do today. If you finish this list, that YOU designed, that means you are on a positive trajectory for constant improvement. Everything is incremental. One step at a time. TODAY IS A WIN. Be proud of what you accomplished today and now go enjoy your family and life."
It is like my past self giving my present self permission to be free the rest of the day, and it is surprisingly amazing. I will always be hard on myself, but this was a big step to freeing myself from my own tyranny.
I hope this helps anyone feeling the same way. I will probably do a radio show on this very thing. What is the point of all of this? To get everything life has to offer... Well, I was blocking, needlessly, a lot of what makes life worth living.
I am blessed. I am 31. I am healthy. I have a beautiful home. I have a fantastic wife and an awesome son. I work on cool projects, and I am by the world's definition, successful...
I HAVE PERMISSION TO ENJOY LIFE!
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