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I don't even know how I got to know about the book UNSCRIPTED, but I haven't been able to put it down since I opened it the first time. It is like all the words Im reading in this book, my silent whisper start screaming YEAH, that is what I have been trying to tell you!
As long as I can remember I have had this idea, that there has to be more to life than just to get up in the morning, go to work, go home, watch some tv, wait or weekends and then repeat. I had all of that (kid, husband, house, steady job) at the age of 24 and I was so disappointed when I realized I could see my whole life being "just that". It scared the cr*p out of me.
I longed for freedom and my husband was scared that it meant a life without him, so he he fought like hell to make me love my life with him. The more he fought, the more trapped I felt. Soon it got really ugly and what started as a dream romance turned out to be the closest thing to being physically abused by another human being. He never touched me, but threatened me enough times for me to realize we would be better off without each other.
It was in this fight (=divorce) I had my FTE. It wasn't about money, but about the right to be happy. After 4 or 5 months of verbal abuse from my angry husband I decided to leave him. When I told my dad this, his response was; what about me? Here I was, in the biggest shit storm of my life, fighting with a man who would rather threaten to hit me than own up to his own shit and all my dad thought about in that moment was how hurt he had been when his first wife left him. At this point my mom and dad had been maried for 35 years, and still together, so imagine my surprise of getting this response.
At that point my kid was not even two years old and I knew that if I stayed in these unhealthy relationships, I would pass it on to my kid. Not in a million years I would let that happen. At that moment I decided that all that old crap ends with me. I was going to give my son a truly happy childhood, no matter the circumstances and for that I am grateful. He is 13 years old now, and he is still the most gentle, empathic and happy camper. All because of that decision I made in that moment.
You see, I wasnt really happy. In fact, I was numb. Didn't feel a thing. I knew I loved my kid, but I couldn't really feel it. So I had set out to figure out what made me so numb and the first book I read was about happy kids. The main point of the book was that kids don't do what you say, they do what you do. So to make your kid happy, be happy yourself.
A decade went by with all kinds of self-help. Books, jobs, courses, lectures. Some worked better than others. I can still feel the power from that decision I made back then and reading about FTE's has been exactly like that. There was never a plan B. There was never a timeframe for me to achieve this, all I did know is that my kid is worth all the struggle I have been through (both with others but mostly with my own cr*p).
The benefits from this journey has been (besides the happiness) is that my relationship with my parents and with my sons father has improved in ways i couldn't even have hoped for. I have found a lot of new amazing friends, who help me find my strength to keep going (I also have a chronic disease, which makes me even more determinded on creating a life of freedom).
I have been trying all kinds of things (workwise) and have never really found the right place for me. I have always looked at the entrepreneurs arund me with envy, and with the conviction that I don't have the brains, the energy, the talent to enter that world. And I am a woman. I know so many women here in Denmark who tries to make it with their own business, but either have a man to support them or give up trying.
I don't have a man to support me, neither do I want to need to. I want to be able to take care of me and my kid, no need to be saved by anyone but myself.
All I know is that for the past year or three I have felt this growing desire to create something of my own. The money is secondary, it's the feeling of creation that drives me. But while I searched for a way to make a living by "doing what I love" UNSCRIPTED came to me. And even though @MJ DeMarco states clearly what he thinks of that frase I believe Im on the right path to do so. Mostly because what I love to do is to learn (you should se my bookshelves at home!) and challenges is my oxigen.
I am so grateful for having this book to read, and even though I don't know what to do with my business, I know that this book is one of those that changes lives. And I know in my heart that I have a great adventure in front of me.
Thank you for reading this, and I wish you an amazing day.
Heidi
I don't even know how I got to know about the book UNSCRIPTED, but I haven't been able to put it down since I opened it the first time. It is like all the words Im reading in this book, my silent whisper start screaming YEAH, that is what I have been trying to tell you!
As long as I can remember I have had this idea, that there has to be more to life than just to get up in the morning, go to work, go home, watch some tv, wait or weekends and then repeat. I had all of that (kid, husband, house, steady job) at the age of 24 and I was so disappointed when I realized I could see my whole life being "just that". It scared the cr*p out of me.
I longed for freedom and my husband was scared that it meant a life without him, so he he fought like hell to make me love my life with him. The more he fought, the more trapped I felt. Soon it got really ugly and what started as a dream romance turned out to be the closest thing to being physically abused by another human being. He never touched me, but threatened me enough times for me to realize we would be better off without each other.
It was in this fight (=divorce) I had my FTE. It wasn't about money, but about the right to be happy. After 4 or 5 months of verbal abuse from my angry husband I decided to leave him. When I told my dad this, his response was; what about me? Here I was, in the biggest shit storm of my life, fighting with a man who would rather threaten to hit me than own up to his own shit and all my dad thought about in that moment was how hurt he had been when his first wife left him. At this point my mom and dad had been maried for 35 years, and still together, so imagine my surprise of getting this response.
At that point my kid was not even two years old and I knew that if I stayed in these unhealthy relationships, I would pass it on to my kid. Not in a million years I would let that happen. At that moment I decided that all that old crap ends with me. I was going to give my son a truly happy childhood, no matter the circumstances and for that I am grateful. He is 13 years old now, and he is still the most gentle, empathic and happy camper. All because of that decision I made in that moment.
You see, I wasnt really happy. In fact, I was numb. Didn't feel a thing. I knew I loved my kid, but I couldn't really feel it. So I had set out to figure out what made me so numb and the first book I read was about happy kids. The main point of the book was that kids don't do what you say, they do what you do. So to make your kid happy, be happy yourself.
A decade went by with all kinds of self-help. Books, jobs, courses, lectures. Some worked better than others. I can still feel the power from that decision I made back then and reading about FTE's has been exactly like that. There was never a plan B. There was never a timeframe for me to achieve this, all I did know is that my kid is worth all the struggle I have been through (both with others but mostly with my own cr*p).
The benefits from this journey has been (besides the happiness) is that my relationship with my parents and with my sons father has improved in ways i couldn't even have hoped for. I have found a lot of new amazing friends, who help me find my strength to keep going (I also have a chronic disease, which makes me even more determinded on creating a life of freedom).
I have been trying all kinds of things (workwise) and have never really found the right place for me. I have always looked at the entrepreneurs arund me with envy, and with the conviction that I don't have the brains, the energy, the talent to enter that world. And I am a woman. I know so many women here in Denmark who tries to make it with their own business, but either have a man to support them or give up trying.
I don't have a man to support me, neither do I want to need to. I want to be able to take care of me and my kid, no need to be saved by anyone but myself.
All I know is that for the past year or three I have felt this growing desire to create something of my own. The money is secondary, it's the feeling of creation that drives me. But while I searched for a way to make a living by "doing what I love" UNSCRIPTED came to me. And even though @MJ DeMarco states clearly what he thinks of that frase I believe Im on the right path to do so. Mostly because what I love to do is to learn (you should se my bookshelves at home!) and challenges is my oxigen.
I am so grateful for having this book to read, and even though I don't know what to do with my business, I know that this book is one of those that changes lives. And I know in my heart that I have a great adventure in front of me.
Thank you for reading this, and I wish you an amazing day.
Heidi
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