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A little story on my fitness journey - Why you should lead the pack and other lessons

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I'm what some call a fitness nut, but really, I realize that we only have one body, so why not make the most of it?

Over the years, the gym, and most namely the squat rack, has become my home. For a long time, the Iron was all I had. I invested all my energies and time to getting bigger, stronger, faster, more explosive.Time spent researching nutrition, weighing and cooking food, honing my form to perfection. I loved it.

Soon, people started taking notice. "Shit dude, how the hell do you squat 4 plates for reps! Teach me!". "Your one rep max squat is WHAT!?!". Perplexed, my answer was always quite simple "I squat lots", which was the truth. Not a second later, they would appear deflated, hoping for some protein powder with 9 types of creatine in it to get them to squat over 2 times bodyweight.

A few listened to my advice, and squatted more often, asking me for tips on form and positioning - tips that I promptly supplied, as they were already well en route to squatting mountains, I was merely a guide.

Slowly though, a negative energy was projected at me. Big men with small minds passive aggressively attacking me - standing in my way for no reason, messing with my equipment, staring me off at the gym. Anytime I got under the bar, there'd be whispers - many that would find their way back to me. "He's on the juice", "I heard he's on X, Y and Z", "I reckon he's on X, I heard him coughing earlier, it must be X".

Not one of my detractors had built a physique of any worth, developed any particular physical talent or strength. I still see some of them nowadays - same old.

Then, the newbies. I take no issue with flattery, but I wish some of the newbs at the gym did their own research - they would have gotten more out of what they did. As I went from strength to strength, I began to notice that various newbs would begin copying my training regimen. Same reps, same exercise, same sets, EVERYTHING. Carbon copied. Yet, none of them were making any great quantum leaps in muscle or strength gains. Why?

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Morals of this story

Ok, I know this story seems to trump me up, but it's all 100% true. Having recently been involved in the entrepreneurial community, I see a lot of parallels.

Here are a few take aways from this story, in my eyes:

- Forging true physical strength is much like forging a business. It is not without attaining knowledge and having the wisdom and drive to apply it consistently, that one garners any results. Knowledge, wisdom, drive & consistency are all required in equal measure.

- Having lurked on this forum for a while, by and large, many here can be likened to the gym newb who asked me my secrets to squatting more. They see something amazing, and MUST have the magical secret, only to be given a basic tool or two, which while true and effective, pale in comparison to the MAGICAL SILVER BULLET OF GAINS/RICHES that many assume to exist.

- I imagine that many of the mentors here feel the same way I did when I saw guys who would squat consistently, and do everything right, even if they were lost or not particularly strong. They have showcased initiative, action, persistence and perseverance - they're already halfway there! They just need a nudge and some guidance, and I have no problem supplying it, since I know they're not going to waste it and they are doing it right. It's rewarding when you see the fledgling skinny asian kid who barely squatted the bar, start put up 1 plate and close to 2 plate.

- When you begin to succeed, you will draw criticism, no matter what. There's an Aristotle quote I really like, something like: "If you wish to avoid criticism; say nothing, do nothing and be nothing". That's it in a nutshell. Read some Buddhist texts - even Buddha, a guy who just wanted peace for everyone, drew ire from hotheads who wanted to humiliate and one up him. Jesus got cruxified for less than that. If you want to walk through any road of achievement, be prepared for the smaller minds to come out of the woodwork and test you.

- Commenting on my potential steroid use is tantamount to people calling others "lucky" or "gifted". It insults and discards the process. They saw the 500 pound squat. What they didn't see was me catching a bus at 8:30 or 9pm to go to the gym. Or walking a few miles with bags and bags of groceries because I didn't have a car. Or the hours spent researching and writing programs and diets. All of my efforts culminated in a singular act, which is all they saw. They put the event over the process.

- Lastly, copying my program is much like how competitors may copy your ideas. The newbs never gained, not because my program wasn't good, but because they had no idea why I was doing what I was doing, and missed all the subtle nuances that I performed. A rotation here, a change of grip there. Slight tweaks which I had perfected over years, according to my physical structure, to maximize the benefits that I would reap.

When a competitor is copying you, or vice versa, it's a very shallow replica of the original. A market leader is doing the thinking, the implementation and the testing, then the pack is playing catch-up, not understanding the WHY or the HOW of the new feature, just jumping on it to fit a mold.


Seems like I'm making all my posts with a short story before it :P. Hope you guys all take away something useful from my post.
 
Good post @Avisto , been a health nut too, reason...well I'm just too sick of being sick! Vacation days for me when I was young was a Medical Center, year after year I get confined with some flu or something and now that I am aging, I try to get my defenses up and working with my body, listening to it and so far so good.

I also do hit the gym a couple of times a week to get a little pump and it really really helps focusing on my plans, goals, and life!

Well, good luck on your ventures in the future! :)
 
Wow Avisto! I know exactly what you mean. I'm a big fitness nut, and I went through the exact same thing. People started noticing my strength and change in physique. Some started asking questions of how I got so strong like bench pressing 2.5x my weight...of course, nothing close to your squats. Some, even family members and friends, accused me of being on steroids, HGH, etc. People started asking for advice. Even big guys twice my weight started asking for advice...only to quickly throw away what I said.

I got to where I was because I put 150% into it. The research, the macros, the supplements, the hard work at the gym (sometimes up to 3 hours), the mistakes made, the lessons learned, etc. You have to TRAIN YOUR MIND before you can TRAIN YOUR BODY. Only you can do it for you...no one else. It all comes down to hard work and consistency.This is the same path I decide to use for my future business plans.

CONTROL YOUR MIND = CONTROL YOUR LIFE

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I lost over 50lbs from freshmen year to senior year in college. My friend who I hadn't seen in while said "You look great! What's your secret?" I replied "umm...diet and exercise." Dejected, he said "Oh, I was hoping it was switching from beer to liquor."
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- Lastly, copying my program is much like how competitors may copy your ideas. The newbs never gained, not because my program wasn't good, but because they had no idea why I was doing what I was doing, and missed all the subtle nuances that I performed. A rotation here, a change of grip there. Slight tweaks which I had perfected over years, according to my physical structure, to maximize the benefits that I would reap.

They didn't gain because they didnt catch your subtle grip changes.................
 
Great post! Check out "Elliott Hulse" on YouTube. A mentor to me and could be a tool for you in the future.
 
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Great post! Check out "Elliott Hulse" on YouTube. A mentor to me and could be a tool for you in the future.
Been following him pretty much since he started back in '09. I was grinning like a schoolgirl when he followed me on Twitter :P. Huge fan of his stuff, and had the honor of seeing him go from strength to strength
 

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