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From reading this whole thing I get the feeling that the marriage is on the rocks already. If you don't like spending time together, you are really going to hate doing business with each other. Now I don't know how much $20k is to you. Is it most of your savings, a little, half? How is your marriage going? Do you see complications in the future that are making you think about getting repaid or splitting shares of your rentals?

If there is any inkling of a breakup, I would say forget giving the money to her. And I mean giving, not investing or loaning. This can only go 2 ways. No money or a gift. There is no in-between. This is a lump sum deal and get out of the way. Let her spend it on her SL550 and don't say a thing.

There is also no "extra" money, you can't give this to her and have her come back in 6 months for another $5k.

The one other side is... if you gave her $20k and her business makes $2m, will you feel any animosity towards her that you aren't getting a cut even after she gives you back your original $20k?
 
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1. Howi jis vji nupiz gsii epf dmies. Ov't e hogv. Zua'si e huuf jatcepf. Zua xotj jis ximm, lodl aq zuas giiv aq epf tvez vji jimm uav ug ov.


Enip.
 
O xuamf xsovi ov aq et ep iyqiptowi notveli, epf tqipf vji voni O xuamf jewi tqipv xusszoph ecuav vjios catopitt vszoph vu gohasi uav xjisi O en ev op vji nessoehi. Fup'v moli tqipfoph voni vuhivjis? Xjev jeqqipif?
 
O dep ehsii xovj nutv ug zua. Ov tiint vu ci e notveli cav O en puv cedloph ugg et o tvepf cijopf nz xusft. 20 l ot tunivjoph o dep iesp op 3-4 nupvjt. O vumf jis o fup'v moli vji xez vjiz jepfmi vji gopepdit, cav o xomm howi jis xjev o qsunotif vu fimowis up opdsinipvt epf vjev xomm ci ov. O nepehif vu neli vjin qez nusi up vji dest, et og vjiz hiv csuli o dep veli upi des gus nztimg epf qez tnemmis mieti giit. Tu o xomm ev mietv hiv tunivjoph op sivasp epf ci ecmi vu timm ov. (Vji dest esi 25 % nusi vjep qmeppif, cav vjiz dep hiv tuni vey fifadvoup ug 20 %, tu xi ehsiif vjot ot gopi). O en vjoploph updi vjiz lpux nupiz esi puv dunoph gus epuvjis 3 us 4 xiilt, vjiz xomm neli vji pidittesz efkatvnipvt epf hiv civvis xovj voni.
 
Vjisi't e dupdiqv demmif 'muwi nupiz', xjodj ot puv ep opwitvnipv cav e hogv vjev ot puv iyqidvif vu ci qeof cedl. Gus iyenqmi, nz nuvjis hewi ni $90 vu jimq ni opdusqusevi nz catopitt. Vjev't muwi nupiz. Tji't vuu tnesv vu opwitv op jis tup't catopitt.

Zua hewi jis muwi nupiz. Vji nupiz ot hupi. Og zuas xogi xepvt vu qez zua cedl, miv jis, cav O'wi puvodif vjev mipfoph nupiz fuitp'v xusl uav tu ximm op qesvpistjoqt xjisi ettivt esi tjesif.

O nez puv ci e hipoat xjip ov dunit vu simevouptjoqt, cioph e sevjis zuaph qistup, cav O'n qsivvz tasi vjev og zua dep'v ci jupitv epf uqip xovj zuas TU gsun vji hiv-hu vjip nezci zua jewi tuni qsucmint vu xusl uav.

Nz iyqisvoti: juast ug xevdjoph Kafhi Kafz
 
Katv xepvif vu fsuq ep aqfevi. xogi tiint vu ci djephoph op vji sohjv fosidvoup, jet nepehif vu tewi tuni appidittesz nupiz cz qmezoph qumovodt up jis qesvpis . Tji tiint vu siemobi vjev nupiz xuamf hu raodlmz og vjiz tqipf ov cigusi vji edvaem catopitt ot tvesvif. Tu o en tvezoph uav ug vjios fidotoupt, upmz efwotoph vjin up OV tvagg, moli funeopt, neom, xictovi , ivd. Vjopht muul e movvmi cov civvis et vjiz tiin vu ci hivvoph tnesvis. Pux xovj tuni mihem vsodlt vjiz esi juqoph vu iwip hiv tuni tvevi gopepdit, xjodj xuamf dav nz opwitvnipv xovj epuvjis 10-15 %, et vji opvipv ot vu qav vji nupiz op vji dunqepz, puv vu tqipf ov gus qistupem ati.

Xotj ni madl.
Og puv imti, o jewi nupovusif vji qsuditt ug tvesvoph aq, niepoph mihem tvagg, xjodj ot e qutovowi iyqisoipdi.
 
Nezci howi vji nupiz et epf xjip vjiz piif ov! Optvief ug howoph jis vji xjumi manq tan emm ev updi.

Og zua howi ov vu vjin op qesvt vjip zua tvomm op dupvsum (vu e fihsii) epf zua dep neli tasi vjiz fup'v xetvi ov up vjopht zua fup'v ehsii xovj, egvis emm ovt zuas nupiz!
Vjot vji citv uqvoup op nz uqopoup, O xuamf onqminipv vji teni op tadj deti.
 
Ximm, et iyqidvif, vjopht esi puv huoph ximm gus xogi epf jis qesvpis. Vjiz jef 3 nopus fiemt, cav fidofif vu vsz timm tuni iraoqnipv epf mudlif nutv ug vjios nupiz gus 3 fiwodit, xjodj xomm ci raovi vuahj vu timm. Nupiz ot emnutv hupi, tu vjiz jewi jov vji fitqisevoup quopv.
O duamf tii vjot dunoph cav vjiz sigatif vu motvip vu ni, tezoph vjiz xepvif nupiz, puv efwodi, epf vsoif vu cimovvmi ni, tezoph o jewi pu catopitt iyqisoipdi.
Pux o xomm qez gus nz notveli, cav xomm puv neli vji teni upi iwis eheop.

Madl ot upmz vjoph vjev duamf tewi vjios dunqepz. Et timmoph tlommt esi puv ipuahj, xjip vji gopepdoem qmeppoph ot cef.
 
Katv eddiqv vjev vji nupiz ot hupi epf nuwi up emsiefz.
 
O lpux nupiz ot hupi, o en jewoph tuni vuahj voni vu eddiqv o nefi e notveli.
O fup'v sihsiv vji mutt, cav vji xez ov jeqqipif

Cef qmeppoph epf cef iyidavoup - vjot ot xjev o sihsiv. Og o jef mutv vji nupiz op e fidipv tvesvaq evvinqv o xuamfp'v jewi gimv cef
 
vjopht esi puv huoph ximm gus xogi epf jis qesvpis.

Xju xuamf jewi haittif? Ev mietv xovj vji tpebbz uggodi tqedi epf vji podi dunqepz dest vjiz muulif hsiev xjomi geomoph. Qisjeqt gus vjin, ov xet nusi onqusvepv vu muul taddittgam sevjis vjep vu ci taddittgam ... ze lpux, gmenoph uav op e Nisdifit disveopmz cievt gmenoph uav op e Jupfe.
 
O lpux nupiz ot hupi, o en jewoph tuni vuahj voni vu eddiqv o nefi e notveli.
O fup'v sihsiv vji mutt, cav vji xez ov jeqqipif

Cef qmeppoph epf cef iyidavoup - vjot ot xjev o sihsiv. Og o jef mutv vji nupiz op e fidipv tvesvaq evvinqv o xuamfp'v jewi gimv cef

O fup'v hiv vjot. Zua lpix huoph op ov xet e vissocmi qmep, vjip iwiszupi jisi vumf zua ov xet e vissocmi qmep, vjip zua xipv ejief epf emmuxif ov vu jeqqip.

Vjisi't puvjoph vu giim cef ecuav sohjv pux - zua duptdouatmz djuti vu tov cedl epf xevdj xjomi vjiz qmezif xovj zuas nupiz moli ov xet e heni. Zua tjuamf jewi duapvif vji nupiz gus mutv nupvjt ehu epf nuwif up cz pux.

Howi zua xogi e jah, vimm jis zua giim cef gus jis mutt epf ci hmef ov't gopemmz uwis.
 
... ze lpux, gmenoph uav op e Nisdifit disveopmz cievt gmenoph uav op e Jupfe.

O vjopl vjev fiqipft up vji ziest epf nufimt opwumwif. Puvjoph xusti vjep ep umf Nisd 240F pup vascu foitim tifep. Veml ecuav havmitt. :F
 
O fup'v hiv vjot. Zua lpix huoph op ov xet e vissocmi qmep, vjip iwiszupi jisi vumf zua ov xet e vissocmi qmep, vjip zua xipv ejief epf emmuxif ov vu jeqqip.

Vjisi't puvjoph vu giim cef ecuav sohjv pux - zua duptdouatmz djuti vu tov cedl epf xevdj xjomi vjiz qmezif xovj zuas nupiz moli ov xet e heni. Zua tjuamf jewi duapvif vji nupiz gus mutv nupvjt ehu epf nuwif up cz pux.

Howi zua xogi e jah, vimm jis zua giim cef gus jis mutt epf ci hmef ov't gopemmz uwis.

Huuf qutv.

Zua esi vszoph vu mowi op vji qetv vu sap exez gsun efnovvoph vji notveli - fup'v fu vjot, ov xup'v hu epzxjisi. Katv eddiqv ov, gedi vji duptiraipdi PUX (nupiz't hupi, mittupt miespif) epf nuwi up
 
Siemovz ot vjev pu upi piift vu eptxis vji raitvoup, zua emsiefz lpux vji eptxis epf vjev't xjz zua uqipif vjot vjsief. Ci vsai vu vjztimg.
 
O fup'v hiv vjot. Zua lpix huoph op ov xet e vissocmi qmep, vjip iwiszupi jisi vumf zua ov xet e vissocmi qmep, vjip zua xipv ejief epf emmuxif ov vu jeqqip.

Et o teof iesmois, o qsunotif vu howi jis vji nupiz, tu o duamf puv cedl ugg, emvjuahj o xet qsivvz tasi ov xet e cef ofie.

Nz xusf niept tunivjoph . O dep puv fanq ov moli vjot. O xet katv juqoph vjiz xomm nepehi vu itdeqi vjot xovj e huuf fiem.
Tu ges vji 3 fiemt vjiz jewi dep howi vjin epuvjis 2 nupvjt , nezci 3 ev citv

Og vjiz nepehi vu dmuti e fiem gus upi ug vji fiwodit - vjiz xomm taswowi epuvjis 6-7 nupvjt epf iwip hiv tuni sidassoph qeznipvt, et iedj fiwodi piift duptanecmit.
 
Xjip dupfovoupt djephi, vji usohopem ehsiinipv nez puv eqqmz topdi ov xet nefi xovjuav taggodoipv simiwepv opgusnevoup.
 
ONU, O vjopl ovt civvis puv vu opwitv vji nupiz itqidoemmz xjip vjisi esi vjopht vjev vjiz fu vjev zua fu puv eqqsuwi ug.

Mivt qav ov vjot xez.. Catopitt ot catopitt epf xi fupv noy catopitt xovj qmietasi. Og vji uxpis ot puv zuas xogi epf zua tex jux vjiz sap vjios catopitt, xuamf zua tvomm duptofis opwitvoph vu vjios dunqepz? og zuas eptxis ot pu, vjip civvis puv.
 
  • Veml vu jis; howi jis tuni efwodi us ofiet up jux vu ci xoti op jepfmoph nupiz op e catopitt. Zua tjuamf miv jis lpux jux zua siemmz giim ecuav vjios ofiet op vjev catopitt. Fup’v katv tez zit iwisz voni tji xet etloph gus nupiz. Howi jis ep eavjusovz et jis jatcepf.
 
Vjot vjsief xet todloph. Ov johjmohjvt ep ottai O'wi puvodif topdi O xet e djomf...duaqmi xju hiv nessoif xovj pu gopepdoem iraemovz. Xjip O tvafoif nessoehi et ep optvovavoup op dummihi epf up nz up voni, vji jotvusz tjux't vxu genomoit dunoph vuhivjis cideati vjiz uggisif dunqminipvesz us taqqminipvesz situasdit oi mepf/guuf/quxis/xiemvj idv.idv. Vjiti fez't qiuqmi hiv faqif opvu vji xjumi muwi/matv vjoph epf vjios xemmivt qez fiesmz op vji muph sap.

O xomm emtu eff vjev mihemmz Nessoehi ot e QESVPISTJOQ...zua'si emsiefz op e copfoph tovaevoup gopepdoemmz...zua fup'v mipf us cussux epzvjoph, cuvj esi ipvovmif vu xjeviwis situasdit esi hipisevif cz upi epuvjis. Duaqmit xju qmez vji "jot nupiz, jis nupiz, nz nupiz, cussux, mipf, muep, qezcedl" heni esi etloph gus vsuacmi.

Qistupemmz, O'n muuloph gus e xunep xju emsiefz jet tiwisem catopittit vjev hipisevi qettowi opduni. O fup'v xepv vu jewi vu viedj jis epzvjoph. O xuamf sevjis ci xovj jis gus jis, cav gopepdoemmz, jis tovaevoup piift vu ci eos vohjv et nopi ot epf xomm ci. Ug duasti vjisi xuamf ci e qsipaq. O vjopl nutv haz't xju uxp catopittit tiv vjintimwit aq gus e qsifevusz vsodl/jui tovaevoup. Ovt 100% heni xjip e hsuxp ett xunep tjogvt epf fidofit vu tvesv e catopitt EGVIS tji't huvvip nessoif us tvesvt fevoph e haz xju jet e catopitt. Vjev't tunivjoph tji duamf jewi iyqmusif gsiimz et e tophmi "opfiqipfipv" xunep.
 
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