Okay guys, I have something really really really special for you. Like, really special. I've been working on something for about 15 years now, and I've been dropping breadcrumbs for a couple years. All those breadcrumbs were actually part of a much bigger framework building an actual science of achievement.
This is the real deal. This will get you what you want. I understand that's a big claim but I think I've built up enough of a reputation on this forum for people to know I don't bullshit people and when I say I have something good I deliever on it. Do this and you'll have control over your behavior. I've tested this. I've tried this. It worked for me and a handful of the other people I've shown. It's also based on the most rigorous evidence-based behavioral change methods. What does evidence-based mean? A technique is considered 'evidence-based' when it's been tested over and over and over under the most rigorous scientific conditions and has been shown to work again and again. If this doesn't work for you I'd like to interview you for the sake of science.
This is the core framework of many types of behavior change methods (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Internal Family Systems, etc etc etc) boiled them down to First Principles. Compared them, contrasted them and boiled down to WHY they work. Having them down to their first principles makes it work better and faster.
So okay whatever.... Let's think about something. How is it humanly possible that anyone on this forum hasn't attained whatever level of success they could possibly want. MJ's book spells it out step-by-step in his book. It's all right there. The model is simple. Make something cool and scale it. THAT'S IT. There is no excuse.
But still.. how many people on here are actually living the life they want?
Well it's simple, often our minds simply don't do what we tell them to do. Our brains can be disobedient little brats who only care about candy and video games. I mean.. if you've been on this planet for more than say...... 3 days, you know how goddamn hard it can be to get our minds to obey us. For some people, you know how hard it is to just 'decide' to do something and then just... do it. Imagine just deciding you're going to stick to a diet then doing it and watching the pounds fall off. Or deciding that you're going go to the gym daily and just... do it. But for many it’s easier said than done. You see an attractive member of the sex you're attracted to and want to go over and talk but your brain has different plans so it comes up with a bunch of 'reasons' as to why you shouldn't. You want to start a startup but your brain comes up with some BS and tells you to go play some video games instead. Sometimes you just want to tell that voice to shut the f—- up and let you do what you want. It can be like being trapped inside operant conditioning.
People will tell you that you just need willpower. I like to tell them that they just need to shut the F*ck up. There are other ways. I've been nose-deep in behavioral research for over a decade and willpower as a behavior change method is a joke. Even if you DO succeed in using it, it can be like having to live your live with an anvil chained to your leg. To some, it's almost not even worth it. You're almost better off continuing to smoke than you are to have to fight the urge to smoke EVERY day.
But there's another option. What if you just eliminates the urge to smoke? What if you just... didnt want to? What if there was a way to eliminate that desire altogether. Or if you could just eliminate the desire to procrastinate. Not everyone has a desire to procrastinate, do why do some people have it and other's don't. I mean do you really think Elon Musk is walking around every day like 'okay i can't procrastinate.. i can't procrastinate.. let me go muster my willpower to send SpaceX to orbit?' Do you think these people are FORCING themselves to not play video games. Steve Jobs? Bill Gates? Can you imagine Steve Jobs white-knuckling an MacBook design? The notion is absurd.
So what's the difference between Sammy the Slacker and Alex the Achiever?
The difference is we have this little voice that tempts us will all sorts of things. Procrastination. Calorie rich foods. Insecurity. Shyness... i mean it's all different stuff but it's all different versions of the same voice.
You can overpower that voice that tempts you to do things that are not in your best interest… but what if you could silence it completely?
Some people don't have those temptations. One person may have a temptation to be shy, one may have a temptation to procrastinate and one may have a voice making it be harder to stick to a diet. It's all the same voice it just says different things.
Too much Self-Help is about suppressing that negative voice. Some tell you to 'think positive'... some tell you to 'be present in the now' but they all require consistently reminding yourself to 'think positive' or 'be in the now.' I've read Eckhart Tolle, and I like him and his work a lot but it may be harder for some people to always remember to be in the present moment, (even though it gets easier as time goes on)... being present is preferable to most than having to listen to your mind's inane ramblings but to me the answer to me isn't suppressing that voice... the answer to me is killing it altogether. I never want to hear it again. I don't want to ignore it. I don't want to overpower it. I want it gone. Get rid of it in a way that pops it out by it's roots and salts the earth so it's bullshit can never grow again. So you just decide to do something then just... do it. You decide to lose weight and just lose weight. You decide to stop fighting with your spouse and just do it.
“Feel the fear and do it anyway" is one approach, but this is the "erase the fear and do what you want." approach. Both work, but this will be easier for some
But that's where I need help. I have like a dozen different techniques that i developed that ALL work, but I need feedback on which ones are best/fastest and most effective.
So the secret to achievement is actually really simple... 'the secret to achieving anything is to have accurate beliefs'
To send a rocket to the moon you need accurate beliefs about physics. To start a multimillion dollar company you need need to create something people will pay for so you need accurate beliefs about economics and creating value. Conscious or unconscious.
You basically need an accurate map of reality in order to properly navigate it... which means beliefs that are not too pessimistic, and ones that are realistically optimistic (being optimistic but also working out a realistic plan.)
Shit is not hard. But the issue is most of our beliefs, WE DON'T EVEN KNOW WE HAVE. Most of our beliefs are unconscious. Okay okay, what does 'unconscious' mean. For some, ‘unconscious’ conjures images of some weird concept that so vague that it can be nearly meaningless. But the unconscious mind isn't some magical fairy cranking knobs in your limbic system.. the unconscious is simply the emotional mind. It's the emotions you have that arent necessary articulated enough to result in a conscious thought. If you're around someone you feel is “weird” you may unconscious FEEL that there’s something “off,” about them (judgement) but can't consciously put your finger on it enough to literally have the cognitive thought in the language portion of the brain 'he's weird.' But still, the entire time you're talking to him you're just getting a weird sensation. These unconscious emotions influence your behavior far more than your thoughts. Psychologiest and neuroscientists know that 95% of our behaviors and thoughts are unconscious.
So these techniques are methods of pulling out your unconscious beliefs and throwing away the ones that are irrational
Okay enough theory.. next I'm going to show you the actual techniques
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By the way, I had to add something really important... When you're eliminating fears, if you come across anything related to fear of death, DO NOT TOUCH IT. Seriously, do NOT go eliminating any rational fears especially your fear of death. It is the dumbest thing you could possibly do, and it CAN be done with these techniques. If you truely eliminated your fear of death, you would literally not care if you lived or died. Do… not… eliminate… rational… fears. Do not eliminate your fear of walking into traffic, do not eliminate your fear of tongue-kissing snakes, do not eliminate your fear of walking naked in a supermarket. Anything with potentially REAL consequences, do not touch. You're eliminating irrational fears that are holding you back. "Oh but wouldn't life be great without fear and pain?!" Sounds pretty great right? Well let's look at a condition called Congenital insensitivity to pain where people don't feel pain. Sounds great right? Well actually it's one of the most dangerous conditions you can have.
Irrational fears only. Please don't be stupid and make me regret posting this.
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Oh another edit:
This is very important too. If you've had any very serious traumas or phobias.. like, If you've been the victim of a serious crime or you've experienced a life-threatening event, don't attempt these methods and please see a professional. You'll be so glad you did. There are so many technologies (EMDR, IFS) that make those types of things easy these days. Someone I know got into a serious (life threatening) car accident and he was diagnosed with PTSD but after a few sessions of EMDR he was fine. If you're like that you'll be so so so glad when you have mental peace. Can you use the techniques here? Maybe. But there's a risk of an emotional upheaval and you really should have a qualified professional around. I don't recommend it.
The same goes for mental illness. While there are those who have had bad experiences (and tend to be very vocal aboput it) there are people absolutely thriving on the right medication. Jordan Peterson says ‘if society offers you a way out of your hellhole, TRY IT.’.. don't necessarily turn down a medication because someone anecdotally said they had a bad experience. Everyone is different, and it could really help.
This is the real deal. This will get you what you want. I understand that's a big claim but I think I've built up enough of a reputation on this forum for people to know I don't bullshit people and when I say I have something good I deliever on it. Do this and you'll have control over your behavior. I've tested this. I've tried this. It worked for me and a handful of the other people I've shown. It's also based on the most rigorous evidence-based behavioral change methods. What does evidence-based mean? A technique is considered 'evidence-based' when it's been tested over and over and over under the most rigorous scientific conditions and has been shown to work again and again. If this doesn't work for you I'd like to interview you for the sake of science.
This is the core framework of many types of behavior change methods (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Internal Family Systems, etc etc etc) boiled them down to First Principles. Compared them, contrasted them and boiled down to WHY they work. Having them down to their first principles makes it work better and faster.
So okay whatever.... Let's think about something. How is it humanly possible that anyone on this forum hasn't attained whatever level of success they could possibly want. MJ's book spells it out step-by-step in his book. It's all right there. The model is simple. Make something cool and scale it. THAT'S IT. There is no excuse.
But still.. how many people on here are actually living the life they want?
Well it's simple, often our minds simply don't do what we tell them to do. Our brains can be disobedient little brats who only care about candy and video games. I mean.. if you've been on this planet for more than say...... 3 days, you know how goddamn hard it can be to get our minds to obey us. For some people, you know how hard it is to just 'decide' to do something and then just... do it. Imagine just deciding you're going to stick to a diet then doing it and watching the pounds fall off. Or deciding that you're going go to the gym daily and just... do it. But for many it’s easier said than done. You see an attractive member of the sex you're attracted to and want to go over and talk but your brain has different plans so it comes up with a bunch of 'reasons' as to why you shouldn't. You want to start a startup but your brain comes up with some BS and tells you to go play some video games instead. Sometimes you just want to tell that voice to shut the f—- up and let you do what you want. It can be like being trapped inside operant conditioning.
People will tell you that you just need willpower. I like to tell them that they just need to shut the F*ck up. There are other ways. I've been nose-deep in behavioral research for over a decade and willpower as a behavior change method is a joke. Even if you DO succeed in using it, it can be like having to live your live with an anvil chained to your leg. To some, it's almost not even worth it. You're almost better off continuing to smoke than you are to have to fight the urge to smoke EVERY day.
But there's another option. What if you just eliminates the urge to smoke? What if you just... didnt want to? What if there was a way to eliminate that desire altogether. Or if you could just eliminate the desire to procrastinate. Not everyone has a desire to procrastinate, do why do some people have it and other's don't. I mean do you really think Elon Musk is walking around every day like 'okay i can't procrastinate.. i can't procrastinate.. let me go muster my willpower to send SpaceX to orbit?' Do you think these people are FORCING themselves to not play video games. Steve Jobs? Bill Gates? Can you imagine Steve Jobs white-knuckling an MacBook design? The notion is absurd.
So what's the difference between Sammy the Slacker and Alex the Achiever?
The difference is we have this little voice that tempts us will all sorts of things. Procrastination. Calorie rich foods. Insecurity. Shyness... i mean it's all different stuff but it's all different versions of the same voice.
You can overpower that voice that tempts you to do things that are not in your best interest… but what if you could silence it completely?
Some people don't have those temptations. One person may have a temptation to be shy, one may have a temptation to procrastinate and one may have a voice making it be harder to stick to a diet. It's all the same voice it just says different things.
Too much Self-Help is about suppressing that negative voice. Some tell you to 'think positive'... some tell you to 'be present in the now' but they all require consistently reminding yourself to 'think positive' or 'be in the now.' I've read Eckhart Tolle, and I like him and his work a lot but it may be harder for some people to always remember to be in the present moment, (even though it gets easier as time goes on)... being present is preferable to most than having to listen to your mind's inane ramblings but to me the answer to me isn't suppressing that voice... the answer to me is killing it altogether. I never want to hear it again. I don't want to ignore it. I don't want to overpower it. I want it gone. Get rid of it in a way that pops it out by it's roots and salts the earth so it's bullshit can never grow again. So you just decide to do something then just... do it. You decide to lose weight and just lose weight. You decide to stop fighting with your spouse and just do it.
“Feel the fear and do it anyway" is one approach, but this is the "erase the fear and do what you want." approach. Both work, but this will be easier for some
But that's where I need help. I have like a dozen different techniques that i developed that ALL work, but I need feedback on which ones are best/fastest and most effective.
So the secret to achievement is actually really simple... 'the secret to achieving anything is to have accurate beliefs'
To send a rocket to the moon you need accurate beliefs about physics. To start a multimillion dollar company you need need to create something people will pay for so you need accurate beliefs about economics and creating value. Conscious or unconscious.
You basically need an accurate map of reality in order to properly navigate it... which means beliefs that are not too pessimistic, and ones that are realistically optimistic (being optimistic but also working out a realistic plan.)
Shit is not hard. But the issue is most of our beliefs, WE DON'T EVEN KNOW WE HAVE. Most of our beliefs are unconscious. Okay okay, what does 'unconscious' mean. For some, ‘unconscious’ conjures images of some weird concept that so vague that it can be nearly meaningless. But the unconscious mind isn't some magical fairy cranking knobs in your limbic system.. the unconscious is simply the emotional mind. It's the emotions you have that arent necessary articulated enough to result in a conscious thought. If you're around someone you feel is “weird” you may unconscious FEEL that there’s something “off,” about them (judgement) but can't consciously put your finger on it enough to literally have the cognitive thought in the language portion of the brain 'he's weird.' But still, the entire time you're talking to him you're just getting a weird sensation. These unconscious emotions influence your behavior far more than your thoughts. Psychologiest and neuroscientists know that 95% of our behaviors and thoughts are unconscious.
So these techniques are methods of pulling out your unconscious beliefs and throwing away the ones that are irrational
Okay enough theory.. next I'm going to show you the actual techniques
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By the way, I had to add something really important... When you're eliminating fears, if you come across anything related to fear of death, DO NOT TOUCH IT. Seriously, do NOT go eliminating any rational fears especially your fear of death. It is the dumbest thing you could possibly do, and it CAN be done with these techniques. If you truely eliminated your fear of death, you would literally not care if you lived or died. Do… not… eliminate… rational… fears. Do not eliminate your fear of walking into traffic, do not eliminate your fear of tongue-kissing snakes, do not eliminate your fear of walking naked in a supermarket. Anything with potentially REAL consequences, do not touch. You're eliminating irrational fears that are holding you back. "Oh but wouldn't life be great without fear and pain?!" Sounds pretty great right? Well let's look at a condition called Congenital insensitivity to pain where people don't feel pain. Sounds great right? Well actually it's one of the most dangerous conditions you can have.
Seriously. Fear and pain are meant to protect you and save your life on a daily basis. If you eliminate rational fears you are very likely to sustain damage and possibly even death. At the very least you can do something totally stupid and embarass yourself. If you eliminate your fear of whipping your dick out to married women, I assure you.. you will learn that that is a very rational fear. "Oh but I cognitively know not to do that." Please just trust me. The logic portion of your brain has very little actual connections that influence behavior, which is why I'm posting this thread in the first place. If our logic controlled behavior well enough, then you'd have no issue sticking to your diet or whatever.
Irrational fears only. Please don't be stupid and make me regret posting this.
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Oh another edit:
This is very important too. If you've had any very serious traumas or phobias.. like, If you've been the victim of a serious crime or you've experienced a life-threatening event, don't attempt these methods and please see a professional. You'll be so glad you did. There are so many technologies (EMDR, IFS) that make those types of things easy these days. Someone I know got into a serious (life threatening) car accident and he was diagnosed with PTSD but after a few sessions of EMDR he was fine. If you're like that you'll be so so so glad when you have mental peace. Can you use the techniques here? Maybe. But there's a risk of an emotional upheaval and you really should have a qualified professional around. I don't recommend it.
The same goes for mental illness. While there are those who have had bad experiences (and tend to be very vocal aboput it) there are people absolutely thriving on the right medication. Jordan Peterson says ‘if society offers you a way out of your hellhole, TRY IT.’.. don't necessarily turn down a medication because someone anecdotally said they had a bad experience. Everyone is different, and it could really help.
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