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You're not lazy, you're just stuck between two equally powerful forces: comfort (which keeps you unmotivated), and fear (which prevents you from moving).
Wow, I couldn't have put it in better words. Living with my parents has given me unlimited comfort, and it's become such a force in preventing me from moving out of my comfort zone. But, that's absolutely no fault of their own. It's my fault in taking advantage of their good will. And I need to acknowledge this. I'm beginning to recognize that I only see myself living with my parents as a crutch because that's how I CHOSE to live. I choose to see them as giving me unlimited time to readjust and that's just plain wrong on my part.
If moving out is a "test of independence and the will to weather the storms of life", I simply need to break out of this comfort. Although moving out is the easiest way to do this, I don't necessarily HAVE to move out to prove this (eventually, of course, yes, because I really want to). I simply need to take action in breaking through my comfort levels, by going out and establishing my entrepreneurial goal, which in this case would be web design.
I've been thinking whether I should get a job as the first step to get things going, definitely not a bad idea whatsoever, as some have mentioned on this thread. But, I think it might just be action-faking at this point for me.
Roughly two years ago, when I was working on my portfolio for web-design, I saw @Fox's post about his web design coaching program and I thought long and hard about it. But I flaked out because I was scared, and lazy, and I didn't want to be accountable for things I started. When I was thinking about getting a job, this thought kept bugging me, and it dawned on me, that while working a job would be great for my personal development, it simply would not make sense when I could make use of my web-design skills to directly pursue a path toward the fast lane. So after my exams, I'm thinking of taking @Fox's program, if he'll take me of course.
Note: I realize this might come off like I'm selling his program, but I'd like to point out that I'm in no way affiliated with @Fox or his team. This is just the telling of my life. But if I'm breaking any rule, I'll gladly edit it out.
So what do you end up doing? You put in just enough effort to stay comfortable. And it's never enough. You end up not doing the difficult things, and when you do the difficult things you cut as many corners as possible in order to reduce the amount of effort you have to put in.
THIS IS GOLD. You hit the bullseye. I could not have figured this out myself. When I put in "effort" , I always came away with a feeling that my "best" was inadequate. Just like you mentioned, it's because my "best" is within my comfort. It's most likely because I've been comfortable for so long, that it's so extremely difficult to channel effort BEYOND the limit of my own comfort.
First, accept where you are now. Without doing this you will always be lost. You ARE here, now.
This is key. I've been floundering around, looking at society, others, wishing I was them, all on that FOMO. I need to be humble and accept where I am now.
Emotionally, I'm overwhelmed. Thank you for dedicating your time to writing this. It's beautifully written, and easily understandable.First, understand that everything you do is a risk, even if you do nothing. There's no getting away from risk. It's impossible. Being afraid of risk is like being afraid of food. You have to eat to live, and you have to take risks to get anywhere in life. So you need to learn to (1) execute scared, and (2) do due diligence for any endeavor. Due diligence means understanding the risks you're taking and deciding what level of risk is acceptable. You will get better at due diligence the more you do it. For now, accept that you're not very good at it but that you're willing to do it. Luckily, this is an ongoing process and you'll be doing due diligence a LOT as an entrepreneur, so you will eventually get good at it if you continue on it.
If you're uncomfortable, there's no excuse for putting in too little effort. You have to take the risk that your time, money, effort will be wasted. You HAVE to accept this. There's no getting around it. But you need to be confident that your assessment of the risk (your due diligence) is correct, and that what you're doing is less risky than the return it promises.
How can you be so confident? You just need to have faith, and that's all it comes down to. Unsatisfactory answer? Too bad. The world is a highly uncertain place. You're always going to be working with incomplete data. You can either delude yourself into believing you're right all the time (which will cause its own problems), or you can accept that you might be wrong but you're doing it anyway, because you're confident that you're right.
This took me a long time to type out and I had to do it in sections. I hope it was coherent enough for you to understand.
tl;dr JUST DO IT
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