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Keep in mind that there are two parts of this:
1. The selfish part - How your children will influence your lives as adults.
2. The more important part - How you will influence your children's lives as they grow up.
Put another way - this decision isn't just about how children will change your life, it's also HUGELY about how good of a parent you think you'll be and your willingness to "step up" and be a damn good parent for them for the rest of your life.
I'll just come out and say it - too many shitty people have kids who deserve better parents. If you can't be the kind of parent that any child would be thrilled to call "mom" or "dad" - don't have children. Period.
If you're willing to be a great parent, the selfish part almost doesn't matter. Shit will go sideways and shit will get hard and you'll make sacrifices and hard choices along the way that you wouldn't have to if you didn't have kids but guess what? As long as you're a great parent, you'll figure it out and get through it because that's what great parents do.
1. The selfish part - How your children will influence your lives as adults.
2. The more important part - How you will influence your children's lives as they grow up.
Put another way - this decision isn't just about how children will change your life, it's also HUGELY about how good of a parent you think you'll be and your willingness to "step up" and be a damn good parent for them for the rest of your life.
I'll just come out and say it - too many shitty people have kids who deserve better parents. If you can't be the kind of parent that any child would be thrilled to call "mom" or "dad" - don't have children. Period.
If you're willing to be a great parent, the selfish part almost doesn't matter. Shit will go sideways and shit will get hard and you'll make sacrifices and hard choices along the way that you wouldn't have to if you didn't have kids but guess what? As long as you're a great parent, you'll figure it out and get through it because that's what great parents do.
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